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<blockquote data-quote="librarygrrrl" data-source="post: 414733" data-attributes="member: 11434"><p>Thanks for the replies <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Regarding the possible molestation, the therapist she was seeing, June to February - we just quit, did specialize in child sexual abuse. Nothing came out of it. Also, her school is really great in that they do the "Good Touch/Bad Touch" program which lasts a week, every year. Plus, I have said everything to make her comfortable, it's not your fault, nobody is going to hurt you if you tell blah blah blah and nothing. </p><p>HPV does have a latency period so for all we know this could have happened when she was 2 and just does not have memory??? But why act out now???</p><p>Also in regards to the HPV, while in the hospital to have them removed the hospital typed them as the sexually transmitted strain. After the fact I was doing all this research and there are NUMEROUS strains and how Dr's should not jump to the conclusion that gential warts on children are a sign of sexual abouse...I wanted to hospital to send them to a lab to tell me the exact strain it was and the sample were destroyed. So much for that. So either daughter has been abused and is not ready to talk about it and may not be ready for years, OR it was innocent transmission and we put her through all this therapy/social worker/police stuff a year for nothing.</p><p>When the rages started in October and her therapist was not helping at all, I took daughter to a Child Psychiatrist that specializes in anger issues. She did not help much other than sending her to a neurologist to check her brain (which was fine). The psychiatric did say if she did not improve we could bring her back to talk medication but I have not reached that yet. Every time a rage occurs I wish she was medicated but all the doctors keep saying is that she can control herself she just chooses not to at home. So I still want to work with her on controlling her feelings before drugs get involved. Plus we really do not know when a rage is going to occur. Some days she seems agitated and I feel like she is building up and I am right, other days it turns into nothing.</p><p>I am so sick of taking things away, threating that if she has a fit she can't go to a friends house etc. It feels like I am always holding something over her head. But she has flat out said, "I need a reason to be good". </p><p>Her Grandma (my Mom) came up with a plan that if she could be good for a whole month, no fits, no being mean to her little brother, she would take her out and do something special just the two of them. daughter was so excited and the first week I really did see some great improvements plus she was playing so nicely with DS and being loving to him (he was over the moon!) it was a good week. Then on 7th night she had a major rage which included her standing outside in the rain and sitting on me to pin me down. So now she has to start all over again at day one. When my Mom told her 30 days I chuckled to myself, that is a loooooooooong time - I would be happy with 2 weeks!</p><p> </p><p>by the way, what is the difference between a child psychiatric and a neuropsychologist?</p><p>Also, has anyone ever had hormone levels checked in their child?</p><p>Food allergies?</p><p>Seems like I am grapsing at straws wanting to blame her behavior on anything rather than just saying she is a brat.</p><p>It is so hard to look at her pictures from years ago and not see the same child in her now <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="librarygrrrl, post: 414733, member: 11434"] Thanks for the replies :) Regarding the possible molestation, the therapist she was seeing, June to February - we just quit, did specialize in child sexual abuse. Nothing came out of it. Also, her school is really great in that they do the "Good Touch/Bad Touch" program which lasts a week, every year. Plus, I have said everything to make her comfortable, it's not your fault, nobody is going to hurt you if you tell blah blah blah and nothing. HPV does have a latency period so for all we know this could have happened when she was 2 and just does not have memory??? But why act out now??? Also in regards to the HPV, while in the hospital to have them removed the hospital typed them as the sexually transmitted strain. After the fact I was doing all this research and there are NUMEROUS strains and how Dr's should not jump to the conclusion that gential warts on children are a sign of sexual abouse...I wanted to hospital to send them to a lab to tell me the exact strain it was and the sample were destroyed. So much for that. So either daughter has been abused and is not ready to talk about it and may not be ready for years, OR it was innocent transmission and we put her through all this therapy/social worker/police stuff a year for nothing. When the rages started in October and her therapist was not helping at all, I took daughter to a Child Psychiatrist that specializes in anger issues. She did not help much other than sending her to a neurologist to check her brain (which was fine). The psychiatric did say if she did not improve we could bring her back to talk medication but I have not reached that yet. Every time a rage occurs I wish she was medicated but all the doctors keep saying is that she can control herself she just chooses not to at home. So I still want to work with her on controlling her feelings before drugs get involved. Plus we really do not know when a rage is going to occur. Some days she seems agitated and I feel like she is building up and I am right, other days it turns into nothing. I am so sick of taking things away, threating that if she has a fit she can't go to a friends house etc. It feels like I am always holding something over her head. But she has flat out said, "I need a reason to be good". Her Grandma (my Mom) came up with a plan that if she could be good for a whole month, no fits, no being mean to her little brother, she would take her out and do something special just the two of them. daughter was so excited and the first week I really did see some great improvements plus she was playing so nicely with DS and being loving to him (he was over the moon!) it was a good week. Then on 7th night she had a major rage which included her standing outside in the rain and sitting on me to pin me down. So now she has to start all over again at day one. When my Mom told her 30 days I chuckled to myself, that is a loooooooooong time - I would be happy with 2 weeks! by the way, what is the difference between a child psychiatric and a neuropsychologist? Also, has anyone ever had hormone levels checked in their child? Food allergies? Seems like I am grapsing at straws wanting to blame her behavior on anything rather than just saying she is a brat. It is so hard to look at her pictures from years ago and not see the same child in her now :( [/QUOTE]
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