Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
My daughter is not the same child anymore
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 414821" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, Librarygrrrl.</p><p></p><p>I can't speak about the other issues ... no experience ... but my son is a classic example of the carrot and the stick routine only working until the very last second and then KABOOM! He ruins everything he has worked for.</p><p></p><p>Looking back on it, I would shorten the time period, from a week to 4 days or something shorter. These kids just cannot handle "Grownup" schedules, like a week. The fact that she was improving meant that she was really working on it and looking forward to it and needed a reward.</p><p></p><p>Also, when you see her ramping up, back off. I can tell when my son is ramping up. He gets dark circles under his eyes, his ears turn red, he gets jumpy (either moves around a lot or taps his foot or something, or goes after the animals and won't let them go), etc. Sometimes he gets mouthy and I have to just walk away because if I give it back to him or get very stern, he will explode. </p><p></p><p>To an outsider, it looks as though we are spoiling our kids. But it's just because we know how they think (or the flaws in their thinking) and how far to push them.</p><p></p><p>I agree, that something is going on inside, and you never know, she could have been molested many yrs ago and has no memory of it except a primal anger, knowing at some level that whatever happened was wrong and unfair.</p><p>Also, since you have a mood disorder, she could be ramping up for bipolar or something, but you won't really get a grip on that until she's a teenager (others here have more experience with-that).</p><p></p><p>So sorry you had to find us, but glad that you did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 414821, member: 3419"] Welcome, Librarygrrrl. I can't speak about the other issues ... no experience ... but my son is a classic example of the carrot and the stick routine only working until the very last second and then KABOOM! He ruins everything he has worked for. Looking back on it, I would shorten the time period, from a week to 4 days or something shorter. These kids just cannot handle "Grownup" schedules, like a week. The fact that she was improving meant that she was really working on it and looking forward to it and needed a reward. Also, when you see her ramping up, back off. I can tell when my son is ramping up. He gets dark circles under his eyes, his ears turn red, he gets jumpy (either moves around a lot or taps his foot or something, or goes after the animals and won't let them go), etc. Sometimes he gets mouthy and I have to just walk away because if I give it back to him or get very stern, he will explode. To an outsider, it looks as though we are spoiling our kids. But it's just because we know how they think (or the flaws in their thinking) and how far to push them. I agree, that something is going on inside, and you never know, she could have been molested many yrs ago and has no memory of it except a primal anger, knowing at some level that whatever happened was wrong and unfair. Also, since you have a mood disorder, she could be ramping up for bipolar or something, but you won't really get a grip on that until she's a teenager (others here have more experience with-that). So sorry you had to find us, but glad that you did. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
My daughter is not the same child anymore
Top