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My dear sweet Mom was a total PITA all weekend!
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 523442" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>This is going to sound odd. But perhaps mom needs a check up. That is a rather drastic change in behavior. </p><p></p><p>I grew up with my gramma. She was not a ranter, she rarely ever cussed.......*might* say d*mn if she stubbed her toe really bad. She never poked her nose into her kids business, never offered opinions on their mates or children. A very pleasant agreeable person to be around. IF she got mad at you for whatever reason.......you got <strong>the look</strong>, you know.....the momma look that stops 7 feet tall 300 lbs of solid muscle men in their tracks and made your blood run cold. Once I recall her calling one of her sister in law's on the carpet over his abusive treatment of my aunt........she did it in a very quiet voice with the look. That's how she handled things.</p><p></p><p>At about 11-12 yrs old I come home from school (actually to my house, not hers because school office gave me a message I was to go Home). My mom tells me when I get there that my gramma is inside and acting oddly, like a crazy person. I didn't believe her and went inside.........and yeah, she wasn't acting at ALL like herself. There was this glare on her face, and she was snipping at everyone....not long after I got home snipping turned into yelling and honestly......there was no real reason for it. Mom took her into the bedroom to try to calm her down. Uh....that only made it worse. Mom called my uncle (this had all started at his house) and they took her to the ER where she was admitted to the psychiatric unit. It went down hill from there. </p><p></p><p>I was furious. And I acted like a true difficult child (I was) and I refused to let up on how they were being mean to her and they weren't trying to find out what was wrong. I got poo pooed and patted on the head. It made me more furious. Finally I confronted my mom (when it came to gramma I knew no fear) and demanded to know why no one was considering she could've had a stroke instead of her being crazy suddenly in her late 60's for pete's sake. She'd already had one stroke when I was 7. Even as a child that sounded more reasonable than, oh.....this sane person just flipped over absolutely nothing. Mom thought about it.....then it nagged her......and then she asked the doctor who tested gramma.........and low and behold she'd had another stroke and was immediately moved off the psychiatric unit. About a week later she was herself again and didn't remember much of what had happened.</p><p></p><p>While I realize your mom is under a LOT of stress caring for her parents and that can really get to a person (yup i know that one first hand), when someone displays behavior that is really out of character for them it sends up a red flag. Red flags shouldn't be ignored. The symptoms of a stroke can be several things such as blurred vision, loss of feeling....ect (the classic signs) or a sudden change in personality or behavior. That your mom has been under so much stress only makes it more important not to ignore the red flag. And a good sound physical checkup doesn't hurt anything. (and yeah, someone needs to tell the doctor about the behavior and have him actively check) </p><p></p><p>Maybe that isn't what is going on, but I felt I had to put it out there to be considered. While stress of caring for loved ones can truly get to a person......it usually doesn't alter their behavior to that degree. And I hope I"m wrong. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 523442, member: 84"] This is going to sound odd. But perhaps mom needs a check up. That is a rather drastic change in behavior. I grew up with my gramma. She was not a ranter, she rarely ever cussed.......*might* say d*mn if she stubbed her toe really bad. She never poked her nose into her kids business, never offered opinions on their mates or children. A very pleasant agreeable person to be around. IF she got mad at you for whatever reason.......you got [B]the look[/B], you know.....the momma look that stops 7 feet tall 300 lbs of solid muscle men in their tracks and made your blood run cold. Once I recall her calling one of her sister in law's on the carpet over his abusive treatment of my aunt........she did it in a very quiet voice with the look. That's how she handled things. At about 11-12 yrs old I come home from school (actually to my house, not hers because school office gave me a message I was to go Home). My mom tells me when I get there that my gramma is inside and acting oddly, like a crazy person. I didn't believe her and went inside.........and yeah, she wasn't acting at ALL like herself. There was this glare on her face, and she was snipping at everyone....not long after I got home snipping turned into yelling and honestly......there was no real reason for it. Mom took her into the bedroom to try to calm her down. Uh....that only made it worse. Mom called my uncle (this had all started at his house) and they took her to the ER where she was admitted to the psychiatric unit. It went down hill from there. I was furious. And I acted like a true difficult child (I was) and I refused to let up on how they were being mean to her and they weren't trying to find out what was wrong. I got poo pooed and patted on the head. It made me more furious. Finally I confronted my mom (when it came to gramma I knew no fear) and demanded to know why no one was considering she could've had a stroke instead of her being crazy suddenly in her late 60's for pete's sake. She'd already had one stroke when I was 7. Even as a child that sounded more reasonable than, oh.....this sane person just flipped over absolutely nothing. Mom thought about it.....then it nagged her......and then she asked the doctor who tested gramma.........and low and behold she'd had another stroke and was immediately moved off the psychiatric unit. About a week later she was herself again and didn't remember much of what had happened. While I realize your mom is under a LOT of stress caring for her parents and that can really get to a person (yup i know that one first hand), when someone displays behavior that is really out of character for them it sends up a red flag. Red flags shouldn't be ignored. The symptoms of a stroke can be several things such as blurred vision, loss of feeling....ect (the classic signs) or a sudden change in personality or behavior. That your mom has been under so much stress only makes it more important not to ignore the red flag. And a good sound physical checkup doesn't hurt anything. (and yeah, someone needs to tell the doctor about the behavior and have him actively check) Maybe that isn't what is going on, but I felt I had to put it out there to be considered. While stress of caring for loved ones can truly get to a person......it usually doesn't alter their behavior to that degree. And I hope I"m wrong. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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