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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 372134" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry that he could not even choose to behave semi-decently for even a week upon getting out. You must feel so let down and betrayed by him. We have ALL seen you fight tooth and nail to help him get the treatment he needs and to help him learn to live a decent life. At every turn he has chosen to be selfish and to do whatever he wanted, no matter what you did or didn't do.</p><p> </p><p>His behavior this time is truly scary. The threats he was making, combined with the fact that he truly blames YOU for his choice to pull a knife on you in the past, made me scared for your safety. He was not out long enough to hook up with a group of tougher people in the drug world, which would have put YOU in even more danger.</p><p> </p><p>Part of me wonders if he did this to sort of "set you free", to allow you to rebuild your life with-o having to worry about what he was doing when he wasn't in your sight. He clearly has NO intention of changing his behavior anytime soon, but may have seen how bad things are and decided (with difficult child logic) that if he was incarcerated then you could rebuild your life more easily and with-o having to go to PO meetings, to court, to school conferences, and with-o having to worry about paying for his expenses.</p><p> </p><p>If he felt going back was inevitable, and he may very well feel that way, then he might have pushed things to go back sooner. He also may have felt very uncomfortable being out and may have done this purposely to go back. I am sure that part of it was not wanting to see how his actions have destroyed your financial security and other aspects of your life. He is NOT without perception, after all.</p><p> </p><p>Whatever his motivations, I really wish this hadn't happened. Hopefully you will be able to work through this with a VA therapist so that at some point you can once again feel safe while you sleep. Hopefully his future will hold some therapy and personal realizations that he has the power to make amends for what he has done and can choose to live a decent life within the limits of the law, and that he chooses to do this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 372134, member: 1233"] I am so sorry that he could not even choose to behave semi-decently for even a week upon getting out. You must feel so let down and betrayed by him. We have ALL seen you fight tooth and nail to help him get the treatment he needs and to help him learn to live a decent life. At every turn he has chosen to be selfish and to do whatever he wanted, no matter what you did or didn't do. His behavior this time is truly scary. The threats he was making, combined with the fact that he truly blames YOU for his choice to pull a knife on you in the past, made me scared for your safety. He was not out long enough to hook up with a group of tougher people in the drug world, which would have put YOU in even more danger. Part of me wonders if he did this to sort of "set you free", to allow you to rebuild your life with-o having to worry about what he was doing when he wasn't in your sight. He clearly has NO intention of changing his behavior anytime soon, but may have seen how bad things are and decided (with difficult child logic) that if he was incarcerated then you could rebuild your life more easily and with-o having to go to PO meetings, to court, to school conferences, and with-o having to worry about paying for his expenses. If he felt going back was inevitable, and he may very well feel that way, then he might have pushed things to go back sooner. He also may have felt very uncomfortable being out and may have done this purposely to go back. I am sure that part of it was not wanting to see how his actions have destroyed your financial security and other aspects of your life. He is NOT without perception, after all. Whatever his motivations, I really wish this hadn't happened. Hopefully you will be able to work through this with a VA therapist so that at some point you can once again feel safe while you sleep. Hopefully his future will hold some therapy and personal realizations that he has the power to make amends for what he has done and can choose to live a decent life within the limits of the law, and that he chooses to do this. [/QUOTE]
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