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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 757460" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Welcome AnotherMom. I strongly recommend the Detachment article Miss LuLu suggests. I keep it close by and do a periodic assessment of what I still need to work on or revisit. I think it seems difficult to detach because our situation is constantly evolving. What I can say for certain is I am better, I feel empowered because I see the boundaries work. I see it as emotional detachment. When I see things logically, rather than emotionally, I can make changes necessary for me. </p><p></p><p>The hardest part is letting go of all the what ifs, but we must. It is out of our control. Someone shared this with me when I first joined here. It has stuck with me like glue. The 3 C's from Out of the Fog.</p><p></p><p>1. I didn't Cause it.</p><p>2. I can't Cure it.</p><p>3. I can't Control it.</p><p></p><p>Learning the difference between helping and enabling has given me emotional freedom and ability to communicate with logic. </p><p></p><p>I sought professional help, but it wasnt until I came here that I understood my therapist was trying to get me to detach. I was too resistant at the time. There are several here who go to Alanon and what they share has been very helpful. </p><p></p><p>We can only control ourselves and try to be as healthy as possible for all those who want us to be whole.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome. Keep us posted. In healing</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 757460, member: 23811"] Welcome AnotherMom. I strongly recommend the Detachment article Miss LuLu suggests. I keep it close by and do a periodic assessment of what I still need to work on or revisit. I think it seems difficult to detach because our situation is constantly evolving. What I can say for certain is I am better, I feel empowered because I see the boundaries work. I see it as emotional detachment. When I see things logically, rather than emotionally, I can make changes necessary for me. The hardest part is letting go of all the what ifs, but we must. It is out of our control. Someone shared this with me when I first joined here. It has stuck with me like glue. The 3 C's from Out of the Fog. 1. I didn't Cause it. 2. I can't Cure it. 3. I can't Control it. Learning the difference between helping and enabling has given me emotional freedom and ability to communicate with logic. I sought professional help, but it wasnt until I came here that I understood my therapist was trying to get me to detach. I was too resistant at the time. There are several here who go to Alanon and what they share has been very helpful. We can only control ourselves and try to be as healthy as possible for all those who want us to be whole. Again, welcome. Keep us posted. In healing [/QUOTE]
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