Good morning to everyone. I just joined this forum after reading quietly for a long period of time. Like a lot of you here, I have an adult son (23) that just doesn't seem to want to be an adult. We fought all through his high school years over everything - he wouldn't go to school, did the bare minimum to pass, lots of drugs use which back then I thought was just weed but now I'm wondering if there was anything else. He didn't want to go to college after high school even though he is a smart kid. We told him he can't just live in our basement and get high, he has to either get a job and pay rent or study or enlist, but he has to do something. Eventually he surprised us all and enlisted. The proudest day of my life was when he graduated from basic training. He's been to Iraq, was injured and sent home, and then got medically discharged. Very soon after getting out of the hospital he met his current girlfriend who made everything worse. She's also a drug user, very problematic, goes to parties and brags about having criminal friends. Son of course is in love and thinks she's an angel. He told me they're using drugs together and I couldn't be more heartbroken. The last few times I saw him, before he decided not to talk to me because I won't enable him, I could tell he was high on something. They used to ask us for money using all kinds of excuses until we decided to stop giving them any. Nothing we or his Army friends (who are all good kids) do or say seems to have any impact here, and it's killing me. It's impossible to do nothing, but it's like there's nothing to do.