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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 757469" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Welcome AM,</p><p></p><p>If you've been reading quietly on this forum for a while, I'm betting you've experienced some healing already. I have two sons, 27 and 31. The 31 yr. old is currently living with someone right now but with COVID his off again on again employment is uncertain and at any moment I could find him living in his car again too. Younger son, in 2009 graduated from the Marine Corp. Just as you, it was the proudest day of my life. However, similar to your son was discharged. He had tons of friends when he first got out because he had a back stash of pay from the time in the Marine Corp. Most all of that was spent on drugs and alcohol and partying. He lived with us for several more years not doing much of anything. In 2017 I got divorced after 30 yrs. of marriage and our family dynamics changed. I refused to take him or the older son who never worked with me. Since then they have both been living in their cars mostly. It's been difficult to watch them spin their wheels. Don't get me wrong, I spent thousands and thousands of dollars trying to save them both until I was just about sunk. They didn't change a bit.</p><p></p><p>Through Al anon, counseling, good books and this forum I have gotten better and have learned I have to be the change. I can and will always continue to pray for them and communicate with them "with boundaries" but I try very very hard not to get sucked in emotionally and make irrational decisions for myself.</p><p></p><p>Glad you've begun posting. You will find healing, no doubt in doing so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 757469, member: 23405"] Welcome AM, If you've been reading quietly on this forum for a while, I'm betting you've experienced some healing already. I have two sons, 27 and 31. The 31 yr. old is currently living with someone right now but with COVID his off again on again employment is uncertain and at any moment I could find him living in his car again too. Younger son, in 2009 graduated from the Marine Corp. Just as you, it was the proudest day of my life. However, similar to your son was discharged. He had tons of friends when he first got out because he had a back stash of pay from the time in the Marine Corp. Most all of that was spent on drugs and alcohol and partying. He lived with us for several more years not doing much of anything. In 2017 I got divorced after 30 yrs. of marriage and our family dynamics changed. I refused to take him or the older son who never worked with me. Since then they have both been living in their cars mostly. It's been difficult to watch them spin their wheels. Don't get me wrong, I spent thousands and thousands of dollars trying to save them both until I was just about sunk. They didn't change a bit. Through Al anon, counseling, good books and this forum I have gotten better and have learned I have to be the change. I can and will always continue to pray for them and communicate with them "with boundaries" but I try very very hard not to get sucked in emotionally and make irrational decisions for myself. Glad you've begun posting. You will find healing, no doubt in doing so. [/QUOTE]
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