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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 547148" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Hello and welcome. We are just parents and can't make any sort of diagnosis. Members are just suggesting that maybe you might want to look in other directions. </p><p>I wish I could say there is one way to approach bright, difficult and challenging children. We find a way by trial and error. I would suggest that there are hundreds of "experts" who are selling products that will fix our kids. Most of our kids aren't ever fixed but we and eventually themselves finds a way to survive in this world where different thinkers don't fit mainstream education. Be protective of your dollars. </p><p>If I had a dollar for everytime a professional told me how bright my difficult child was, we could retire by now. It's a nice observation but if a child can't function it's pretty useless. IQ tells me my child has the ability to learn things. Boy, can he memorize facts but that is not helpful if he can't follow directions to complete a task or he is socially inept. </p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to keep doing research and finding ways to cope with a difficult child. Educate yourself, get expert opinions from more than one professional, keep an open mind, put your fear and defensiveness on the back burner. Ask yourself "what does my child need?" Tell yourself the truth when you look at his behavior and abilities. Love him regardless and take time to let yourself and husband recharge. </p><p></p><p>I didn't know anyone with a difficult child. I really thought if you gave a child a stable, healthy, positive home, gave him opportunities to learn things and have fun that a kid would just grow up. It's not true. Not all children are born with the same life path. Mine child was happy, sweet, smart and the wildest, most difficult kid in every group from school to cub scouts to sports. It puts a parent in despair but he turns 28 in a few weeks. He isn't fixed but he functions moderately well. I'm not suggesting your son is like mine. I'm just pointing out that parenting is more fluid than I wanted to believe. </p><p></p><p>I hope we can offer some suggestions and support and a few laughs. Welcome to our crazy world</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 547148, member: 3"] Hello and welcome. We are just parents and can't make any sort of diagnosis. Members are just suggesting that maybe you might want to look in other directions. I wish I could say there is one way to approach bright, difficult and challenging children. We find a way by trial and error. I would suggest that there are hundreds of "experts" who are selling products that will fix our kids. Most of our kids aren't ever fixed but we and eventually themselves finds a way to survive in this world where different thinkers don't fit mainstream education. Be protective of your dollars. If I had a dollar for everytime a professional told me how bright my difficult child was, we could retire by now. It's a nice observation but if a child can't function it's pretty useless. IQ tells me my child has the ability to learn things. Boy, can he memorize facts but that is not helpful if he can't follow directions to complete a task or he is socially inept. My suggestion is to keep doing research and finding ways to cope with a difficult child. Educate yourself, get expert opinions from more than one professional, keep an open mind, put your fear and defensiveness on the back burner. Ask yourself "what does my child need?" Tell yourself the truth when you look at his behavior and abilities. Love him regardless and take time to let yourself and husband recharge. I didn't know anyone with a difficult child. I really thought if you gave a child a stable, healthy, positive home, gave him opportunities to learn things and have fun that a kid would just grow up. It's not true. Not all children are born with the same life path. Mine child was happy, sweet, smart and the wildest, most difficult kid in every group from school to cub scouts to sports. It puts a parent in despair but he turns 28 in a few weeks. He isn't fixed but he functions moderately well. I'm not suggesting your son is like mine. I'm just pointing out that parenting is more fluid than I wanted to believe. I hope we can offer some suggestions and support and a few laughs. Welcome to our crazy world [/QUOTE]
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