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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 693086" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Amen, Sister. My son was adopted at six years old from an orphanage in another country. He seemed to be adjusting TOO well. Once he hooked up with his wife, things went south and he, like your daughter, sent me a list of demeaning stipulations I had to follow to see him and his children I never met. its better I never met them. I never will.</p><p></p><p>After two years of grieving and the aftereffects of knowing my child wanted not to see me again, I decided not to allow this now stranger to have so much power over me. He isn't nice and I have other loved ones who need a healthy me. I needed a healthy me too. So I accept that I cant control this situation and focus on the good in my life.</p><p>Recently I sent him a good bye letter.Ten years and no change. I'm done. I can't wonder anymore if they and their abuse will be back to torment me. My other kids and husband are also not wanting his abuse back. The letter gave me closure. He probably would have never engaged me agsin. it had been so long. But now I have a CERTAIN ending. He has no choice, no matter what. I dont enjoy living in limbo. I have banged the gavel. No more.</p><p></p><p>Really. We can only take so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 693086, member: 1550"] Amen, Sister. My son was adopted at six years old from an orphanage in another country. He seemed to be adjusting TOO well. Once he hooked up with his wife, things went south and he, like your daughter, sent me a list of demeaning stipulations I had to follow to see him and his children I never met. its better I never met them. I never will. After two years of grieving and the aftereffects of knowing my child wanted not to see me again, I decided not to allow this now stranger to have so much power over me. He isn't nice and I have other loved ones who need a healthy me. I needed a healthy me too. So I accept that I cant control this situation and focus on the good in my life. Recently I sent him a good bye letter.Ten years and no change. I'm done. I can't wonder anymore if they and their abuse will be back to torment me. My other kids and husband are also not wanting his abuse back. The letter gave me closure. He probably would have never engaged me agsin. it had been so long. But now I have a CERTAIN ending. He has no choice, no matter what. I dont enjoy living in limbo. I have banged the gavel. No more. Really. We can only take so much. [/QUOTE]
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