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My hissy fit (or "Christmas is over")
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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 109898" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Jeeze Witz - my thoughts are any discussions of your family should be banned between you and L. Your life was made miserable before by them, and even though you have not laid eyes on them for ages, its still being made miserable via a third party. I am asking with a lot of kindness, and as a friend, how is smashing your Xmas stuff, and giving the rest away getting back at them, cept now you are going to be more mad cause THEY have again ruined it for you. They probably don't even know, or care.</p><p></p><p>You know, I have not seen my mother since I was 43 - she came out for the wedding of the eldest, and started her spiel before she even left her house. Since we have always been like oil and water, I vowed to myself that I was going to be the bigger person and her worded barbs would just bounce off me and fall harmlessly to the floor. I did pretty good for two weeks - kept my mouth shut till she cornered me in my room, and started to bring up stuff that happened between the ages of, ohhh 14 and 17.</p><p>I told her it was not up for discussion and ignored her, something I had never done, and she actually picked up a shoe and went to hit me with it. And I lost it and told her to get the blank out of my ROOM - no one puts their hands on me. I don't care you are my mother - I am not that little girl anymore and you should not think you can control me trying to beat me into submission.</p><p></p><p>Course she made a phone call to my family back home, sobbing hysterically, one phone call to another to family members saying I had just thrown her out of my HOUSE. Course she never mentioned to them all of the details, just the ones that related to her. Now they all think I am the biggest piece of doo doo walking (like they didn't have that opionion before anyway). </p><p></p><p>I was miffed for a while after I put her on the plane a few weeks early. I couldn't even defend myself as they already had a lot of notions as to the person I am. Oh I could have called them but what was the point - no one would believe me, and I would just have kept a lot of family dramma going and I HATE drama. The drama was one of the reasons I got out of Dodge in the first place.</p><p></p><p>I just had to let it go - my bitterness at the whole thing wasn't doing anything to anyone except to me. Eventually the not discussing it with anyone anymore made the anger fade away. I had to take comfort in knowing the true story, despite every one else believing my mothers version. Now it just makes me sad, not angry. </p><p></p><p>I hate to see you so distressed, and letting them ruin your christmas. Your giving them too much power over your life. Maybe some therapy might help for you to let go of this anger - discuss it with an uninvolved third party.</p><p></p><p>Am sorry my friend - sometimes I wish I could have been born in some science fiction life where I just popped out of a pea pod and there was no "family" to have to deal with..</p><p></p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 109898, member: 47"] Jeeze Witz - my thoughts are any discussions of your family should be banned between you and L. Your life was made miserable before by them, and even though you have not laid eyes on them for ages, its still being made miserable via a third party. I am asking with a lot of kindness, and as a friend, how is smashing your Xmas stuff, and giving the rest away getting back at them, cept now you are going to be more mad cause THEY have again ruined it for you. They probably don't even know, or care. You know, I have not seen my mother since I was 43 - she came out for the wedding of the eldest, and started her spiel before she even left her house. Since we have always been like oil and water, I vowed to myself that I was going to be the bigger person and her worded barbs would just bounce off me and fall harmlessly to the floor. I did pretty good for two weeks - kept my mouth shut till she cornered me in my room, and started to bring up stuff that happened between the ages of, ohhh 14 and 17. I told her it was not up for discussion and ignored her, something I had never done, and she actually picked up a shoe and went to hit me with it. And I lost it and told her to get the blank out of my ROOM - no one puts their hands on me. I don't care you are my mother - I am not that little girl anymore and you should not think you can control me trying to beat me into submission. Course she made a phone call to my family back home, sobbing hysterically, one phone call to another to family members saying I had just thrown her out of my HOUSE. Course she never mentioned to them all of the details, just the ones that related to her. Now they all think I am the biggest piece of doo doo walking (like they didn't have that opionion before anyway). I was miffed for a while after I put her on the plane a few weeks early. I couldn't even defend myself as they already had a lot of notions as to the person I am. Oh I could have called them but what was the point - no one would believe me, and I would just have kept a lot of family dramma going and I HATE drama. The drama was one of the reasons I got out of Dodge in the first place. I just had to let it go - my bitterness at the whole thing wasn't doing anything to anyone except to me. Eventually the not discussing it with anyone anymore made the anger fade away. I had to take comfort in knowing the true story, despite every one else believing my mothers version. Now it just makes me sad, not angry. I hate to see you so distressed, and letting them ruin your christmas. Your giving them too much power over your life. Maybe some therapy might help for you to let go of this anger - discuss it with an uninvolved third party. Am sorry my friend - sometimes I wish I could have been born in some science fiction life where I just popped out of a pea pod and there was no "family" to have to deal with.. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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