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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 79526" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I used to have really horrible, vivid nightmares as a child - I can still remember them. A number of them were recurring. One huge blessing for me in getting married, was in having someone I could have near when I woke from a nightmare too terrified to move. As a younger person I could lie awake for hours (listening to the clock chime) and too terrified to move or even make a breathing sound, in case whatever-it-was I'd been dreaming about was still nearby and waiting to pounce.</p><p></p><p>Having a sympathetic husband made a HUGE difference, but he has had to be patient for many years. It's been a while since I had a really nasty dream and I handle them much better these days, but I do still feel the grief, the terror and the ghastly sense of doom they could raise in me. Some were so bad I will NOT relate them here, they would literally make you ill.</p><p></p><p>What worked for me (besides having husband to cuddle) was learning to interpret my dreams. I tried Freud, felt that his symbols were just downright weird, and so I began to read across the spectrum and came to the following conclusions:</p><p></p><p>Some dream symbology is universal, some is not. When a dream involves spiders, most of us would cringe and see this as a negative, fearful image. But to someone who studies and loves spiders, such an image has a very different meaning.</p><p>Freud's symbolism was relevant more to the culture in which he lived as well as the times - more people were openly religious, so religious symbolism would have been more prevalent in dreams. There was more sexual repression, so sexual dreams would have used more symbolism and been more subtle (and maybe more frequent?)</p><p></p><p>But back to now - you need to think about what the various symbols mean TO YOU. Who was there? What else did their presence in your life mean? What other objects were there? Were you really you in the dream, or were you somewhere else? Was there a sense of ownership of any place or thing in the dream?</p><p></p><p>All this can be very important. </p><p></p><p>As a rule, dreaming of death does NOT indicate death, it more commonly means change. In this example, I think it represents fear of change especially what that means for your son's future. You have been worrying about what will become of him, whether he is going to totally wreck his chances in life by stubbornly pursuing his dream instead of at least listening to advice and finding another option, another way around his obstacles. (I'm not being psychic here, you've hinted at this yourself in recent posts).</p><p></p><p>I think this dream is telling you just how concerned you are for him, and how afraid you are that people will blame you for his failures in the future. The dream is making you face this fear NOW, to help you deal with it now and move past it so you CAN help your son.</p><p></p><p>Dreams are generally made to help us. They are our brains assimilating and filing away the input of the day. Anything we have been worrying about chronically, which we are unable to resolve, will often show up in a recurring dream. If we allow ourselves to be overtired and/or overstimulated, we are more likely to have a very full night with busy, confused nightmarish dreams. I find my dreams change a lot while I'm on holiday, getting worse the longer we are away. I know when the nightmares begin to turn up, that it's time to go home. Or at least, arrange for a rest day the next day, doing something very familiar.</p><p></p><p>And speaking of familiar - if you dream of home, even if the 'home' in your dream is not your own, the contents of that home represent you, the real you inside yourself. Is it cluttered? Or spartan? Is it bright and airy? Or dark, dusty, in need of a clean? This may be something only on the fringe of what you recall of a dream, but ANY information can be useful, and if the dream is saying that your own mind is cluttered, dark, gloomy - take note and do something to bring about a positive change. Your mind is warning you...</p><p></p><p>As you try to analyse your dreams you will notice some symbols keep recurring. To try to work out what the symbol means TO YOU, concentrate on how you feel when focussing on that symbol in your dream.</p><p></p><p>Writing down your dreams can be very helpful. Sometimes I've had a dream which I wrote down because it was interesting, although I couldn't work out what it was trying to tell me (if anything). I've even written stories from dreams, although this usually doesn't work - what seems so logical the instant you wake soon can become a total mess when you try to sort it out. But writing it down helps you get better at finding out what the dreams are telling you, which makes you a lot better at resolving a lot of your own issues before they get really big and out of control (like a runaway semi). You can also begin to recognise recurring symbols and even work out what they mean - from within the dream! When you find yourself analysing the dream while still dreaming - you know you are doing well!</p><p></p><p>We all dream, quite a lot - but we only remember those dreams which were happening while we were on the edge of waking.</p><p></p><p>A dream book is a very helpful thing. You need to keep it right beside you with pen handy, and write as soon as you wake. You will be surprised by how much you don't remember when you go back to read what you've written. it doesn't matter if you don't remember more than a fragment well enough to write down - what you DID remember is clearly what is more relevant to you, and this is what you work on.</p><p></p><p>There should be nothing "oogy boogy" in this - it's sound, ordinary psychology. If you look at the parapsychology stuff ("did I really dream the exact details of grandma's death before it happened?") you can often see that enough information filtered to you IN LIFE, in your days beforehand, to give your subconscious fears for that person, some reality.</p><p></p><p>Mind you, I am not saying that there aren't paranormal dreams - nor am I saying there are. I've had a few odd things happen too. The mind and brain - amazing things. If you dissect a brain it's hard to see any identifiable structure - yet look what a brain can do!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 79526, member: 1991"] I used to have really horrible, vivid nightmares as a child - I can still remember them. A number of them were recurring. One huge blessing for me in getting married, was in having someone I could have near when I woke from a nightmare too terrified to move. As a younger person I could lie awake for hours (listening to the clock chime) and too terrified to move or even make a breathing sound, in case whatever-it-was I'd been dreaming about was still nearby and waiting to pounce. Having a sympathetic husband made a HUGE difference, but he has had to be patient for many years. It's been a while since I had a really nasty dream and I handle them much better these days, but I do still feel the grief, the terror and the ghastly sense of doom they could raise in me. Some were so bad I will NOT relate them here, they would literally make you ill. What worked for me (besides having husband to cuddle) was learning to interpret my dreams. I tried Freud, felt that his symbols were just downright weird, and so I began to read across the spectrum and came to the following conclusions: Some dream symbology is universal, some is not. When a dream involves spiders, most of us would cringe and see this as a negative, fearful image. But to someone who studies and loves spiders, such an image has a very different meaning. Freud's symbolism was relevant more to the culture in which he lived as well as the times - more people were openly religious, so religious symbolism would have been more prevalent in dreams. There was more sexual repression, so sexual dreams would have used more symbolism and been more subtle (and maybe more frequent?) But back to now - you need to think about what the various symbols mean TO YOU. Who was there? What else did their presence in your life mean? What other objects were there? Were you really you in the dream, or were you somewhere else? Was there a sense of ownership of any place or thing in the dream? All this can be very important. As a rule, dreaming of death does NOT indicate death, it more commonly means change. In this example, I think it represents fear of change especially what that means for your son's future. You have been worrying about what will become of him, whether he is going to totally wreck his chances in life by stubbornly pursuing his dream instead of at least listening to advice and finding another option, another way around his obstacles. (I'm not being psychic here, you've hinted at this yourself in recent posts). I think this dream is telling you just how concerned you are for him, and how afraid you are that people will blame you for his failures in the future. The dream is making you face this fear NOW, to help you deal with it now and move past it so you CAN help your son. Dreams are generally made to help us. They are our brains assimilating and filing away the input of the day. Anything we have been worrying about chronically, which we are unable to resolve, will often show up in a recurring dream. If we allow ourselves to be overtired and/or overstimulated, we are more likely to have a very full night with busy, confused nightmarish dreams. I find my dreams change a lot while I'm on holiday, getting worse the longer we are away. I know when the nightmares begin to turn up, that it's time to go home. Or at least, arrange for a rest day the next day, doing something very familiar. And speaking of familiar - if you dream of home, even if the 'home' in your dream is not your own, the contents of that home represent you, the real you inside yourself. Is it cluttered? Or spartan? Is it bright and airy? Or dark, dusty, in need of a clean? This may be something only on the fringe of what you recall of a dream, but ANY information can be useful, and if the dream is saying that your own mind is cluttered, dark, gloomy - take note and do something to bring about a positive change. Your mind is warning you... As you try to analyse your dreams you will notice some symbols keep recurring. To try to work out what the symbol means TO YOU, concentrate on how you feel when focussing on that symbol in your dream. Writing down your dreams can be very helpful. Sometimes I've had a dream which I wrote down because it was interesting, although I couldn't work out what it was trying to tell me (if anything). I've even written stories from dreams, although this usually doesn't work - what seems so logical the instant you wake soon can become a total mess when you try to sort it out. But writing it down helps you get better at finding out what the dreams are telling you, which makes you a lot better at resolving a lot of your own issues before they get really big and out of control (like a runaway semi). You can also begin to recognise recurring symbols and even work out what they mean - from within the dream! When you find yourself analysing the dream while still dreaming - you know you are doing well! We all dream, quite a lot - but we only remember those dreams which were happening while we were on the edge of waking. A dream book is a very helpful thing. You need to keep it right beside you with pen handy, and write as soon as you wake. You will be surprised by how much you don't remember when you go back to read what you've written. it doesn't matter if you don't remember more than a fragment well enough to write down - what you DID remember is clearly what is more relevant to you, and this is what you work on. There should be nothing "oogy boogy" in this - it's sound, ordinary psychology. If you look at the parapsychology stuff ("did I really dream the exact details of grandma's death before it happened?") you can often see that enough information filtered to you IN LIFE, in your days beforehand, to give your subconscious fears for that person, some reality. Mind you, I am not saying that there aren't paranormal dreams - nor am I saying there are. I've had a few odd things happen too. The mind and brain - amazing things. If you dissect a brain it's hard to see any identifiable structure - yet look what a brain can do! Marg [/QUOTE]
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