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My husband and I are splitting up
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 240763" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Shawna,</p><p>others have given you such great advice, I really have nothing to add and sounds like you are doing better. The only thing I did want to say was, you're jumping to conclusions and assuming your husband didn't want sex because of your weight is a perfect example of how someone with Borderline (BPD) or Borderline (BPD) traits thinks (not that I think you have Borderline (BPD)). This is what my difficult child did all the time and her DBT therapy really helped her be able to think in a different way and it helped me too since I tend to do the same thing.</p><p></p><p>The difference here though is that you had people here suggesting other possibilities and you were open to hearing and acting upon them--that's huge and that's what someone with Borderline (BPD) has a lot of trouble doing.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I am glad you will both get counseling on your own and I agree with you about the sw--she does not sound like she is able to remain objective. She reminds me of difficult child 1's outpatient therapist--she would scold us and get angry with us--she took our lack of progress very personally!</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 240763, member: 3450"] Hi Shawna, others have given you such great advice, I really have nothing to add and sounds like you are doing better. The only thing I did want to say was, you're jumping to conclusions and assuming your husband didn't want sex because of your weight is a perfect example of how someone with Borderline (BPD) or Borderline (BPD) traits thinks (not that I think you have Borderline (BPD)). This is what my difficult child did all the time and her DBT therapy really helped her be able to think in a different way and it helped me too since I tend to do the same thing. The difference here though is that you had people here suggesting other possibilities and you were open to hearing and acting upon them--that's huge and that's what someone with Borderline (BPD) has a lot of trouble doing. Anyway, I am glad you will both get counseling on your own and I agree with you about the sw--she does not sound like she is able to remain objective. She reminds me of difficult child 1's outpatient therapist--she would scold us and get angry with us--she took our lack of progress very personally! Hugs to you, Jane [/QUOTE]
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