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My independent adult son is not who he wants us to believe he is
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<blockquote data-quote="CLJ" data-source="post: 618505" data-attributes="member: 17622"><p>Thanks so much, this forum has been so helpful to me today. Yeah my son is the friendly good personality everythings seem perfect kinda kid to everyone on the outside and is a people pleaser just like his parents UGH!!! That is where my guilt lies right now.....I'm so pissed at my husband for not dealing with some issues that I feel passed on to our son and had he taken care of them years ago, our son would not have been so apt to fit in......Grrrrrr I just need to vent!!!! I know in my heart we did a damn good job raising him, he knows right from wrong.....why is there this voice telling me, "well you shouldn't have done this" Or what if such and such didn't happen and we handled it better.......I feel like the reason he moved out when he was 19 was because we were too smart for his new life, he was venturing into slowly but surely and got frustrated trying to keep stuff from us. I'm not saying he was doing back then, what he is doing now, but he did give us reasons to not trust him when he lived here and it just got too hard for him to live a lie. It took me months to get over him moving out, I literaly went into a depression and went to see my therapist to get me through it. I kept telling myself through the last two years that these feelings I were having were normal and to just let go and that my son is suppose to leave the nest and go fly and soar and find himself and that is whats suppose to happen with kids when there parents do a good job....but the mother in me never ever felt like he had a good grip to start that adventure when he had just been through an enormous down point in his life when his best friend cheated with my sons girlfriend. My son even said that he moved out cause he thought it would make everything better......People kept telling me that I worry too much he is a big boy and quit being so motherly......I had such a hard time, and now I find out tons of stuff I always feared has come true!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CLJ, post: 618505, member: 17622"] Thanks so much, this forum has been so helpful to me today. Yeah my son is the friendly good personality everythings seem perfect kinda kid to everyone on the outside and is a people pleaser just like his parents UGH!!! That is where my guilt lies right now.....I'm so pissed at my husband for not dealing with some issues that I feel passed on to our son and had he taken care of them years ago, our son would not have been so apt to fit in......Grrrrrr I just need to vent!!!! I know in my heart we did a damn good job raising him, he knows right from wrong.....why is there this voice telling me, "well you shouldn't have done this" Or what if such and such didn't happen and we handled it better.......I feel like the reason he moved out when he was 19 was because we were too smart for his new life, he was venturing into slowly but surely and got frustrated trying to keep stuff from us. I'm not saying he was doing back then, what he is doing now, but he did give us reasons to not trust him when he lived here and it just got too hard for him to live a lie. It took me months to get over him moving out, I literaly went into a depression and went to see my therapist to get me through it. I kept telling myself through the last two years that these feelings I were having were normal and to just let go and that my son is suppose to leave the nest and go fly and soar and find himself and that is whats suppose to happen with kids when there parents do a good job....but the mother in me never ever felt like he had a good grip to start that adventure when he had just been through an enormous down point in his life when his best friend cheated with my sons girlfriend. My son even said that he moved out cause he thought it would make everything better......People kept telling me that I worry too much he is a big boy and quit being so motherly......I had such a hard time, and now I find out tons of stuff I always feared has come true! [/QUOTE]
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