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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 581630" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry your little bro is such a manipulator and he doesn't care about the people who gave birth to him and raised and loved him. Cause that is how I see this. I remember all that you told us about when he lived with your mom, and at the time i thought he wanted her house and belongings and any money she had. NOT to share, but all for him so he would be 'set' and so would his daughter. </p><p></p><p>It is very very hard when a parent has problems and one sib wants to manipulate the situation. I hope in time your sibs will back off and if they don't that your older bro and you can protect your mom from them. I can see them attempting to do a competency/guardianship takeover with-o notifying you. Be sure your mom has an attorney she can call and that the atty knows to call you. </p><p></p><p>Your sis was out of line to do this with-o speaking to the rest of you. But I can see how she was talked into it. I just hope she has learned and will not team up with your little bro again over this issue. I don't see him stopping just because this time it didn't work. Can you speak to an attorney with your mom and find out how to protect herself from this sort of thing in the future? Maybe there can be something put in writing that if/when the time comes that she needs this level of help, that control of her being, belongings and finances will be given to you and if you are not capable then to your older bro? And that at no time should that control go to your other sibs (they will have to be named and she may need to put a reason in, one being this attempt to railroad her to moving to a place she hates to live in the home of her daughter and much loathed sister in law while telling her it was for a visit and having her belongings taken against her will.) but if you and older bro cannot handle the responsibility, then the court should appoint a neutral third party to act in her best interests.</p><p></p><p>I am sure something can be done, and in my opinion it would save a ton of headaches in the future. If nothing else, maybe what assets she has can be put into a trust. My grandparents put all their assets into a trust when they moved to FL. They had seen people who got scammed and lost everything, millions in some cases, and they were determined that it wouldn't happen to them. They chose a bank and had professionals from the bank appointed as the trustees, not their kids or their friends or people they knew. </p><p></p><p>I hope your mom can settle back into her life, and that you sis returns you mom's stuff. It was a dirty trick to come to take her for a 'visit' and then say she agreed to move and just forgot, and then to make her neighbors think she is senile and forgot she was moving. As for paying for the gas for the truck, your mom needs to NOT feel bad over that. She didn't ask them to do it, didn't want it done, and it isn't her fault they did it. So she should NOT foot that bill, Know what I mean?? Your sister DOES need to foot the bill to return your mom's stuff if she hasn't already. Who empties their mom's house like that? It boggles my mind that your sister thought it was perfectly fine to try to swndle your mom out of her home and belongings. What did she try to do with your mom's money, whatever money she does have? Cause if she was willing to do all that, and thought your mom unable to handle things, she included finances in that. </p><p></p><p>I hope your sister was scammed by your little bro, but even if she was, surely she could have opened her eyes and used her brain to see that your mom was doing fine in her own home. </p><p></p><p>Please urge your mom to write down her wishes for what she wants to happen when/if she cannot handle her affairs on her own. Having these in writing, and sending them to you and your sibs, can stop a LOT of this type of thing. If she puts in writing that you are the one she trusts to tell her f she needs care, and that you are to supervise that care, or older bro and you are, then the sibs know that they will face a major fight and that you have ammo to use if/when they try this again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 581630, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) I am so sorry your little bro is such a manipulator and he doesn't care about the people who gave birth to him and raised and loved him. Cause that is how I see this. I remember all that you told us about when he lived with your mom, and at the time i thought he wanted her house and belongings and any money she had. NOT to share, but all for him so he would be 'set' and so would his daughter. It is very very hard when a parent has problems and one sib wants to manipulate the situation. I hope in time your sibs will back off and if they don't that your older bro and you can protect your mom from them. I can see them attempting to do a competency/guardianship takeover with-o notifying you. Be sure your mom has an attorney she can call and that the atty knows to call you. Your sis was out of line to do this with-o speaking to the rest of you. But I can see how she was talked into it. I just hope she has learned and will not team up with your little bro again over this issue. I don't see him stopping just because this time it didn't work. Can you speak to an attorney with your mom and find out how to protect herself from this sort of thing in the future? Maybe there can be something put in writing that if/when the time comes that she needs this level of help, that control of her being, belongings and finances will be given to you and if you are not capable then to your older bro? And that at no time should that control go to your other sibs (they will have to be named and she may need to put a reason in, one being this attempt to railroad her to moving to a place she hates to live in the home of her daughter and much loathed sister in law while telling her it was for a visit and having her belongings taken against her will.) but if you and older bro cannot handle the responsibility, then the court should appoint a neutral third party to act in her best interests. I am sure something can be done, and in my opinion it would save a ton of headaches in the future. If nothing else, maybe what assets she has can be put into a trust. My grandparents put all their assets into a trust when they moved to FL. They had seen people who got scammed and lost everything, millions in some cases, and they were determined that it wouldn't happen to them. They chose a bank and had professionals from the bank appointed as the trustees, not their kids or their friends or people they knew. I hope your mom can settle back into her life, and that you sis returns you mom's stuff. It was a dirty trick to come to take her for a 'visit' and then say she agreed to move and just forgot, and then to make her neighbors think she is senile and forgot she was moving. As for paying for the gas for the truck, your mom needs to NOT feel bad over that. She didn't ask them to do it, didn't want it done, and it isn't her fault they did it. So she should NOT foot that bill, Know what I mean?? Your sister DOES need to foot the bill to return your mom's stuff if she hasn't already. Who empties their mom's house like that? It boggles my mind that your sister thought it was perfectly fine to try to swndle your mom out of her home and belongings. What did she try to do with your mom's money, whatever money she does have? Cause if she was willing to do all that, and thought your mom unable to handle things, she included finances in that. I hope your sister was scammed by your little bro, but even if she was, surely she could have opened her eyes and used her brain to see that your mom was doing fine in her own home. Please urge your mom to write down her wishes for what she wants to happen when/if she cannot handle her affairs on her own. Having these in writing, and sending them to you and your sibs, can stop a LOT of this type of thing. If she puts in writing that you are the one she trusts to tell her f she needs care, and that you are to supervise that care, or older bro and you are, then the sibs know that they will face a major fight and that you have ammo to use if/when they try this again. [/QUOTE]
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