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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 582932" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so glad we didn't have this sort of thing on any big scale when any of my grands died. I do caution ANYONE living in OH to make a will. My great aunt didn't specify who got what and so ALL of her belongings ended up in a public auction and my mom had to buy the few items we really wanted. I wanted a sampler my great aunt cross stitched when she was a teen. It was crazy expensive because the auction, but worth it. I really loathe the idea that the items my aunt wanted us to have went to strangers because of that strange auction. It was the law,but my great aunt had a long list of who she wanted to have what and it didn't mean a thing. Also, in OH if you do not specify a guardian for your children, your spouse may have to go to court every few years to PROVE they are fit parents. My gma had to do that after my Gpa died and it made her paranoid that her daughter would be taken from her. She had one family member who kept saying she was 'unfit' because aunt wasn't ladylike enough, and the courts and social services treated this like a real problem, abuse even. My aunt spent years afraid that she would be taken from her mom and it caused some real problems. The laws have not changed much, and if you don't plan for your kids if something happens, this CAN happen to the biological parents. I know because wehn we moved to OH I spoke to several lawyers who said it was a very real thing. Normally it isn't a real issue, but if a family member challenges the fitness of the remaining parent, it can be ugly. After the one relative died, they found a journal where the woman (a sis of Gpa's) detailed how she was going to get custody of my aunt starting when my Gpa was diagnosis'd with heart problems, and all the ugly things she did to try to set Gma up as a bad parent. Something to think about. I fought tooth and nail to get husband to sign a will when we lived there - he wont' even think about making one. But he did sign because it was a deal breaker for me. I have very few.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I hope you and your mom can work to protect her assets for her use during her life. in my opinion her will, and my parents and inlaws, should read, "Being of sound mind and body, I spent every red cent and had a ball." </p><p></p><p>Your mom is lucky to have you and I hope that any damage brother in law has done can be recovered and she can learn to not trust him or give in to pressure with-o checking independently with you and/or an attorney working on her behalf only.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 582932, member: 1233"] I am so glad we didn't have this sort of thing on any big scale when any of my grands died. I do caution ANYONE living in OH to make a will. My great aunt didn't specify who got what and so ALL of her belongings ended up in a public auction and my mom had to buy the few items we really wanted. I wanted a sampler my great aunt cross stitched when she was a teen. It was crazy expensive because the auction, but worth it. I really loathe the idea that the items my aunt wanted us to have went to strangers because of that strange auction. It was the law,but my great aunt had a long list of who she wanted to have what and it didn't mean a thing. Also, in OH if you do not specify a guardian for your children, your spouse may have to go to court every few years to PROVE they are fit parents. My gma had to do that after my Gpa died and it made her paranoid that her daughter would be taken from her. She had one family member who kept saying she was 'unfit' because aunt wasn't ladylike enough, and the courts and social services treated this like a real problem, abuse even. My aunt spent years afraid that she would be taken from her mom and it caused some real problems. The laws have not changed much, and if you don't plan for your kids if something happens, this CAN happen to the biological parents. I know because wehn we moved to OH I spoke to several lawyers who said it was a very real thing. Normally it isn't a real issue, but if a family member challenges the fitness of the remaining parent, it can be ugly. After the one relative died, they found a journal where the woman (a sis of Gpa's) detailed how she was going to get custody of my aunt starting when my Gpa was diagnosis'd with heart problems, and all the ugly things she did to try to set Gma up as a bad parent. Something to think about. I fought tooth and nail to get husband to sign a will when we lived there - he wont' even think about making one. But he did sign because it was a deal breaker for me. I have very few. Anyway, I hope you and your mom can work to protect her assets for her use during her life. in my opinion her will, and my parents and inlaws, should read, "Being of sound mind and body, I spent every red cent and had a ball." Your mom is lucky to have you and I hope that any damage brother in law has done can be recovered and she can learn to not trust him or give in to pressure with-o checking independently with you and/or an attorney working on her behalf only. [/QUOTE]
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