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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 419619" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Now for us - I don't view this as "sex as a bargaining chip" as much as it is a "love languages" thing. I am very much an 'Acts of Service' person. Your deeds demonstrate your love.</p><p> </p><p>There was a Dr Phil episode that explained this very well:</p><p> </p><p>To most men - cleaning is a chore</p><p>to many women - cleaning is an act of love</p><p> </p><p>IOW - I don't fix dinner for you because it is a chore that needs to be done....I fix dinner for you because I love you. If you do the dishes afterward...it shows that you love me back.</p><p> </p><p>Now - if I am cleaning and cooking and doing laundry all day (demonstrating love, love, love)...and all I get from husband is tv watching...that is a rejection of my love. THEN he wants to get a little something something??? Nuh-uh! Not happening! I need some 'Acts of Service' from him first...</p><p> </p><p>At this point in our marriage....it has almost become a joke:</p><p> </p><p>I walked in the other day to find husband scrubbing the bathroom and he told me "<em>I know this is getting you all 'hot', but you're gonna have to wait until later...I'm busy</em>."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 419619, member: 6546"] Now for us - I don't view this as "sex as a bargaining chip" as much as it is a "love languages" thing. I am very much an 'Acts of Service' person. Your deeds demonstrate your love. There was a Dr Phil episode that explained this very well: To most men - cleaning is a chore to many women - cleaning is an act of love IOW - I don't fix dinner for you because it is a chore that needs to be done....I fix dinner for you because I love you. If you do the dishes afterward...it shows that you love me back. Now - if I am cleaning and cooking and doing laundry all day (demonstrating love, love, love)...and all I get from husband is tv watching...that is a rejection of my love. THEN he wants to get a little something something??? Nuh-uh! Not happening! I need some 'Acts of Service' from him first... At this point in our marriage....it has almost become a joke: I walked in the other day to find husband scrubbing the bathroom and he told me "[I]I know this is getting you all 'hot', but you're gonna have to wait until later...I'm busy[/I]." [/QUOTE]
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