so as many of you know from reading my other posts, things are getting hectic with the school difficult child is now in. it took me a full night and half of today with reading the advice given here and trying to figure out how to proceed. so here are my thoughts...... i am going to write the letter myself to the Special Education committee, requesting the 504 or iep be determined and proceedings begun, im also going to include past 5 diagnosis's and neuropsychologist report in my request. i am now logging, via letter to the school every time difficult child can't get up in a.m. and gets to bldg. late a breakdown of our a.m. time logs as well as night before log's of what time she went to bed. i also have decided to record the p.m.'s and a.m.'s with difficult child as well. i will submit a letter to bldg. attention school pysch, social worker, and teacher on a daily basis each and everytime difficult child does not get there on time. i also have a call into the dr. who prescribed the thorazine i am going to ask him for his backing via a letter to the school backing his decision for chosing such a medication, reasons for, etc. and that the school staff suggesting herbal and threatening me against this drug is not needed he is prescribing doctor. i have decided if he is not willing to back me on this i am dumping him and will find another dr. any communication i have with the school will be via letter as suggested to me by many great people here. i'm not going to accept verbal requests for meetings, or impromptu meetings at school.. i will also be bringing a tape recorder to each and every meeting if they request one. basically i'm losing contact with the school. i've already recvd. one voicemail message from the head pysch stating that if id' like to schedule an appointment to meet with him, or any other staff in regards to the "problems" at home, and how to learn to handle difficult child better to alleviate them, as well as getting a plan of action into place in regards to her attendance and hw. (she missed two h.w.'s rexo's that she did not bring home) i was told by teacher to go back to the bldg. "since i'm not working" to get such missing things. not my job and i'm not doing it. here's where confusion comes in and i have alot of legal work to do, i want records of difficult child's released to me, any notes made meetings held, etc. i want each and every piece of paper released to me. i think i can pull this off under the freedom of information act. ?? otherwise the 3 team meetings, or 4 last year various things implemented logs of school nurse visits is all just heresay and bs on my end. i trust no one now. yup a real shame that this has to become my new job, ontop of looking for job because i'm broke. yet it is what it is.............my endles motto.......i'm convinced that will be on my epitaph!! lol my attitude now is if they wanna play they pretty much picked the wrong parent. their scrutinizing me now, i've spoken with friend who had issues with this and had to pull her kid out of school due to it she said they get bad, don't be surprised if they call children services on you to state you aren't doing your job as mom ie. getting her into bldg. on time, etc.