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<blockquote data-quote="Landshark" data-source="post: 629478" data-attributes="member: 18066"><p>Agree with much of what you are saying Midwest Mom and I do appreciate the input. Not trying to defend any of my actions...I am not giving her money directly. I have been paying one of the utility bills since April and I provide groceries although nothing extravagant. Prior to April she had not asked for any help from me. She moved out of the house about four years ago and was employed for almost three of those years. It was only telemarketing but it paid the bills. During that time that she was employed her live in boyfriend was not. When the company she worked for shut down, then he found a job albeit part time. Since January my daughter and her boyfriend were fighting, unknown to me. He finally left a few weeks ago. The bills had piled up and yes, I believe depression was my daughters biggest issue. Probably always has been. </p><p>A couple of other family members have paid a couple of bills but not nearly as much as one might be thinking. </p><p>As to the 7 years she was missing, she has told me some. Lots of partying but also maintaining an apartment for a few years. Then about half way through those 7 years she acquired an older boyfriend and they moved across country. That's when it really got bad, homeless at times and I'm sure other awful stuff like you often reference. </p><p>Yes, she told me this stuff so it could all be lies. I do get that. </p><p></p><p>And just as you mentioned, she has been active in the last couple of weeks, lots of walking and bike riding. She cannot drive, you see, so she is limited by our pitiful mass transit system. I have driven her to several interviews but she has a spotty work history and isn't the blonde Barbie type that is prevalent here. She started working at age 16 and has had several jobs which she has always lost. Employers cited her attitude mostly and those are her words. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how long I can and I will want to support her, i.e. Rent. Not long, but I also can't see putting her out on the streets. I don't expect anyone to think I'm not seeing her through rose colored glasses, but I do think she is trying, I do think she is making improvements. I do think I ignored signs the last year or so that she was in emotional trouble. </p><p>I appreciate this forum listening to me, a faceless group that let's me type for therapy. Just knowing I'm not the only Mom of a kid who isn't a success, who doesn't have a career, who has made some awful choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Landshark, post: 629478, member: 18066"] Agree with much of what you are saying Midwest Mom and I do appreciate the input. Not trying to defend any of my actions...I am not giving her money directly. I have been paying one of the utility bills since April and I provide groceries although nothing extravagant. Prior to April she had not asked for any help from me. She moved out of the house about four years ago and was employed for almost three of those years. It was only telemarketing but it paid the bills. During that time that she was employed her live in boyfriend was not. When the company she worked for shut down, then he found a job albeit part time. Since January my daughter and her boyfriend were fighting, unknown to me. He finally left a few weeks ago. The bills had piled up and yes, I believe depression was my daughters biggest issue. Probably always has been. A couple of other family members have paid a couple of bills but not nearly as much as one might be thinking. As to the 7 years she was missing, she has told me some. Lots of partying but also maintaining an apartment for a few years. Then about half way through those 7 years she acquired an older boyfriend and they moved across country. That's when it really got bad, homeless at times and I'm sure other awful stuff like you often reference. Yes, she told me this stuff so it could all be lies. I do get that. And just as you mentioned, she has been active in the last couple of weeks, lots of walking and bike riding. She cannot drive, you see, so she is limited by our pitiful mass transit system. I have driven her to several interviews but she has a spotty work history and isn't the blonde Barbie type that is prevalent here. She started working at age 16 and has had several jobs which she has always lost. Employers cited her attitude mostly and those are her words. I don't know how long I can and I will want to support her, i.e. Rent. Not long, but I also can't see putting her out on the streets. I don't expect anyone to think I'm not seeing her through rose colored glasses, but I do think she is trying, I do think she is making improvements. I do think I ignored signs the last year or so that she was in emotional trouble. I appreciate this forum listening to me, a faceless group that let's me type for therapy. Just knowing I'm not the only Mom of a kid who isn't a success, who doesn't have a career, who has made some awful choices. [/QUOTE]
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