I have twin 21 year old boys. They have always been a handful but within the last 5 years one of them have been stealing and lieing alot. I always have spoiled my children ( my husband and I have 6 total.) 3 were from his previous marriage and 3 were from mine. The one that I am talking about chose to go live with his biological dad about 5 -6 years ago. I have cut off almost everything financially because he fails to keep a job.