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<blockquote data-quote="Frazzledmom" data-source="post: 396696"><p>Thank you all again. Here's the crazy situation we're in. At this point he is "living" up the street (two houses up to be exact) with family friends. It has always been almost a second home for him since he was three. He is well supervised and being the model guest at the moment. He is 100% different out of our home. He went to school all week and came home to get clothes yesterday. I know that we are a bit whimpy but I do believe that there are adoption issues at work here. The fact that it's ONLY rearing it's ugly head in our family is a clue I think. He has not run away to find drugs because there has been no access to them at either home he's been in. I'm almost positive of that. (I'm not saying he's not doing drugs, I still think it is likely a peice of this puzzle, just not the primary one.) BUT! Lest you think we are total marshmellows, I AM taking your words to heart and trying to do it differently this time. </p><p> </p><p>Of course, right now it's a luxury because we know where he is and that he's safe - but last time I gave a grade B movie performance in the driveway (tears from all of us) that he's not getting this time. I text him once a day with I love you and miss you. My husband said the same yesterday when he came home and got the bedroom door slammed in his face. We're not chasing him, we're kept informed by the neighbors. We're enjoying a quiet, peaceful home for the first time in months. We'll see about Christmas but I'm not begging him, no way. The change in easy child has been very telling, he's not shut in the den with the TV and much more relaxed. We'll report difficult child to the police again if he disappears but so far he has shown no signs of doing that. They put him on the national registry but that is all they will do. In Maine they will not bring a runaway home unless they are positive they are in danger at that moment.</p><p> </p><p>Our therapist is experienced with adopted kids of all shapes and sizes. She, OF COURSE!, is on vacation but we have an appointment on Monday. I thank each and every one of you for all of your advice and support. I don't think my head would be quite as clear without you. I certainly have my moments but I'm determined to enjoy a bit of Christmas and be thankful for what I have. You have all given me a bit of courage which I desperately needed...of course I am no where near warrior status yet but I'm working on it! I'll keep you posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Frazzledmom, post: 396696"] Thank you all again. Here's the crazy situation we're in. At this point he is "living" up the street (two houses up to be exact) with family friends. It has always been almost a second home for him since he was three. He is well supervised and being the model guest at the moment. He is 100% different out of our home. He went to school all week and came home to get clothes yesterday. I know that we are a bit whimpy but I do believe that there are adoption issues at work here. The fact that it's ONLY rearing it's ugly head in our family is a clue I think. He has not run away to find drugs because there has been no access to them at either home he's been in. I'm almost positive of that. (I'm not saying he's not doing drugs, I still think it is likely a peice of this puzzle, just not the primary one.) BUT! Lest you think we are total marshmellows, I AM taking your words to heart and trying to do it differently this time. Of course, right now it's a luxury because we know where he is and that he's safe - but last time I gave a grade B movie performance in the driveway (tears from all of us) that he's not getting this time. I text him once a day with I love you and miss you. My husband said the same yesterday when he came home and got the bedroom door slammed in his face. We're not chasing him, we're kept informed by the neighbors. We're enjoying a quiet, peaceful home for the first time in months. We'll see about Christmas but I'm not begging him, no way. The change in easy child has been very telling, he's not shut in the den with the TV and much more relaxed. We'll report difficult child to the police again if he disappears but so far he has shown no signs of doing that. They put him on the national registry but that is all they will do. In Maine they will not bring a runaway home unless they are positive they are in danger at that moment. Our therapist is experienced with adopted kids of all shapes and sizes. She, OF COURSE!, is on vacation but we have an appointment on Monday. I thank each and every one of you for all of your advice and support. I don't think my head would be quite as clear without you. I certainly have my moments but I'm determined to enjoy a bit of Christmas and be thankful for what I have. You have all given me a bit of courage which I desperately needed...of course I am no where near warrior status yet but I'm working on it! I'll keep you posted. [/QUOTE]
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