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My son is choosing homelessness
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<blockquote data-quote="KrisfromNJ" data-source="post: 626001" data-attributes="member: 17953"><p>Update-</p><p></p><p>Thanks for everyone's responses. That post helped me so much to get my story out and understand I wasn't the only one with these problems, I no longer have to feel guilty wondering what I did wrong anymore.</p><p></p><p>I chose a different course of action after reading your posts and really thought through how others handle things. </p><p></p><p>Today my difficult child called me at work and I picked up the phone after him telling me who it was, he was rambling about what he needed, I calmly said, I love you but if you want me to understand your situation you have to stop calling me at work. When you call me at work and it's not an emergency, I appear irresponsible to my employer. What number would you like me to call back at when My shift is over?</p><p></p><p>Silence! I think he went into shock, he said sorry, after about a minute of dead air - you can call me back at such and such number.</p><p></p><p>Well I called him after work he was telling me how he was living in a friends RV and his big upcoming plans and I was waiting for the punch line of how I fit into helping him and just before he said it ( taking some advice I read in another post) I said your smart I am sure you will figure it out. Boom works like a charm.</p><p></p><p>Then after some small talk, I explained the terms that he is able to call me in the future and what I was willing and unwilling to do from this point. For the first time he said, I know I always forget to tell you but Have a good Mother's Day.</p><p></p><p>Just several days after finding this site I have some hope for a happier future for myself and some peace. I know it may seem like a small step but I feel a lot less stress and wanted to thank everybody.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Kris</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KrisfromNJ, post: 626001, member: 17953"] Update- Thanks for everyone's responses. That post helped me so much to get my story out and understand I wasn't the only one with these problems, I no longer have to feel guilty wondering what I did wrong anymore. I chose a different course of action after reading your posts and really thought through how others handle things. Today my difficult child called me at work and I picked up the phone after him telling me who it was, he was rambling about what he needed, I calmly said, I love you but if you want me to understand your situation you have to stop calling me at work. When you call me at work and it's not an emergency, I appear irresponsible to my employer. What number would you like me to call back at when My shift is over? Silence! I think he went into shock, he said sorry, after about a minute of dead air - you can call me back at such and such number. Well I called him after work he was telling me how he was living in a friends RV and his big upcoming plans and I was waiting for the punch line of how I fit into helping him and just before he said it ( taking some advice I read in another post) I said your smart I am sure you will figure it out. Boom works like a charm. Then after some small talk, I explained the terms that he is able to call me in the future and what I was willing and unwilling to do from this point. For the first time he said, I know I always forget to tell you but Have a good Mother's Day. Just several days after finding this site I have some hope for a happier future for myself and some peace. I know it may seem like a small step but I feel a lot less stress and wanted to thank everybody. Kris Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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