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My son is going to lose the custody he has and is going to kill himself
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 607551" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I don't think that will happen this time, AnnieO. You don't know my son. She recorded every phonecall they had and selectively picked out the ones where he was at his worst and his worst isn't nice. It did sound like GAL made up her mind and she demanded he see the psychologist that ex and her honey have been seeing for months...and right away. He is a psychologist who is primarily used for custody. Ex has stressed his anxiety disorder and she recorded all of his phone calls with his son and the GAL said it wasn't w hat he said that bothered her, but it was the WAY he said things to him...as if he were anxious about him. "How are you, buddy? What are you doing? Do you feel all right?" I don't think that's so awful, but GAL didn't like it.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't look good and no matter w hat I have told my son, and believe me I have said everything recommended here, he is an all-or-nothing black-and-white thinker and can not see beyond the immediate catastrophe. To him, he has lost his son completely and I know he is seriously thinking of suicide. He sounded scary tonight and was abusive to me, but the abuse came from his fear of "losing" his son and finally because he wanted me to brainstorm with him about what to tell the psychologist "to get him to like me" and I said I had no idea how...he called me a horrible parent and hung up. I do not feel hurt feelings. I know this was all high anxiety, desperation based. I do feel he will try to kill himself when the hearing is over and maybe he will succeed. He suffers from the same mental illnesses I have only he is not as capable of helping himself as I always was. All suggestions are met with "I CAN'T!"</p><p></p><p>But thanks for the good words. I really appreciate your responses. At least I don't feel so alone in this and I know I have to go on because I have a family who needs me, regardless of 35's suffering. He simply refuses to let anybody help him learn coping mechanisms other than psychologists and he can't afford one currently.</p><p></p><p>Sad thing is grandson clings to his father and loves him to death and never wants to go back to visit his mother and stepfather (yes, they got married), but that doesn't matter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 607551, member: 1550"] Well, I don't think that will happen this time, AnnieO. You don't know my son. She recorded every phonecall they had and selectively picked out the ones where he was at his worst and his worst isn't nice. It did sound like GAL made up her mind and she demanded he see the psychologist that ex and her honey have been seeing for months...and right away. He is a psychologist who is primarily used for custody. Ex has stressed his anxiety disorder and she recorded all of his phone calls with his son and the GAL said it wasn't w hat he said that bothered her, but it was the WAY he said things to him...as if he were anxious about him. "How are you, buddy? What are you doing? Do you feel all right?" I don't think that's so awful, but GAL didn't like it. It doesn't look good and no matter w hat I have told my son, and believe me I have said everything recommended here, he is an all-or-nothing black-and-white thinker and can not see beyond the immediate catastrophe. To him, he has lost his son completely and I know he is seriously thinking of suicide. He sounded scary tonight and was abusive to me, but the abuse came from his fear of "losing" his son and finally because he wanted me to brainstorm with him about what to tell the psychologist "to get him to like me" and I said I had no idea how...he called me a horrible parent and hung up. I do not feel hurt feelings. I know this was all high anxiety, desperation based. I do feel he will try to kill himself when the hearing is over and maybe he will succeed. He suffers from the same mental illnesses I have only he is not as capable of helping himself as I always was. All suggestions are met with "I CAN'T!" But thanks for the good words. I really appreciate your responses. At least I don't feel so alone in this and I know I have to go on because I have a family who needs me, regardless of 35's suffering. He simply refuses to let anybody help him learn coping mechanisms other than psychologists and he can't afford one currently. Sad thing is grandson clings to his father and loves him to death and never wants to go back to visit his mother and stepfather (yes, they got married), but that doesn't matter. [/QUOTE]
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