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My son is in a crisis unit. Voluntarily, I think.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694970" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Well, I decided to go to work on Tuesday and give notice that I do not want to continue working full time with a caseload. I am willing to work for them on call in short-term stints as they choose and as I am available, doing work that can be completed in a short stretch. I am an independent contractor. I have no obligation nor do they to me. We can change the terms any time and for any reason we want. They can and I can.</p><p></p><p>When I told M, he said: <em>Why don't you think about working until the days get shorter, so that you can reach your goals, or get closer to reach them? </em> (In the beginning of Oct the days will be so short that we will not have daylight the whole drive to work and in Nov nightfall will come before I leave work at night. M is fearful to drive in the dark through the country roads which are bad. His night vision is better than mine but still not good.)</p><p></p><p>So I said to him: <em>M you need to understand that you may admire and respect me but that does not mean other people do. Other people may think I am old and a fool.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>So M answered:<em> And they will think that of me if they want. There is no other world than that.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>You see, something bad happened (again) on Friday. This time with one of my 3 supervisors ( very strange system--there is no division of labor, and they are all 3 immediately above me). And even stranger, in light of what this guy tried to do, is the fact that they cannot do anything to control my work as I am not an employee. I pay my malpractice insurance and I carry all of my own risk. I direct my own work and the manner in which I do it.All they can do is let me go. This young man supervisor seems not to understand me. He practically ordered me to treat a patient in a particular way (badly, unfairly, illegally and unethically), at least as I saw it--although I did not say those words. But I did hold my ground and I did say "no."</p><p></p><p>And afterwards I cried because he was very, very aggressive. He tried to intimidate me and then to crush me. M does not want me to run away, I guess. But I do not want to be hurt more than I have been.</p><p></p><p>My son has been gone all day since we both got up and he is still not back. M for some reason thinks that something will have changed between my son and I, in the dynamic, and it will be easier, for me. He said this in conjunction with his idea that I try to keep going to work, happen what happens.</p><p></p><p>You see when boss type people think bad about me and treat me bad it affects how I think about myself. It did not so much before but now that I am more vulnerable and older, I am not afraid they will crush me (never will they do that) but I afraid I will be badly bruised. Honest to G-d, I did not see coming what that young supervisor did. For 10 minutes he barraged me with attacks to get me to submit to him. I did not. I was never close to submitting, but boy oh boy was I affected. Not scared. Not nervous. But agitated and battered.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694970, member: 18958"] Well, I decided to go to work on Tuesday and give notice that I do not want to continue working full time with a caseload. I am willing to work for them on call in short-term stints as they choose and as I am available, doing work that can be completed in a short stretch. I am an independent contractor. I have no obligation nor do they to me. We can change the terms any time and for any reason we want. They can and I can. When I told M, he said: [I]Why don't you think about working until the days get shorter, so that you can reach your goals, or get closer to reach them? [/I] (In the beginning of Oct the days will be so short that we will not have daylight the whole drive to work and in Nov nightfall will come before I leave work at night. M is fearful to drive in the dark through the country roads which are bad. His night vision is better than mine but still not good.) So I said to him: [I]M you need to understand that you may admire and respect me but that does not mean other people do. Other people may think I am old and a fool. [/I] So M answered:[I] And they will think that of me if they want. There is no other world than that. [/I] You see, something bad happened (again) on Friday. This time with one of my 3 supervisors ( very strange system--there is no division of labor, and they are all 3 immediately above me). And even stranger, in light of what this guy tried to do, is the fact that they cannot do anything to control my work as I am not an employee. I pay my malpractice insurance and I carry all of my own risk. I direct my own work and the manner in which I do it.All they can do is let me go. This young man supervisor seems not to understand me. He practically ordered me to treat a patient in a particular way (badly, unfairly, illegally and unethically), at least as I saw it--although I did not say those words. But I did hold my ground and I did say "no." And afterwards I cried because he was very, very aggressive. He tried to intimidate me and then to crush me. M does not want me to run away, I guess. But I do not want to be hurt more than I have been. My son has been gone all day since we both got up and he is still not back. M for some reason thinks that something will have changed between my son and I, in the dynamic, and it will be easier, for me. He said this in conjunction with his idea that I try to keep going to work, happen what happens. You see when boss type people think bad about me and treat me bad it affects how I think about myself. It did not so much before but now that I am more vulnerable and older, I am not afraid they will crush me (never will they do that) but I afraid I will be badly bruised. Honest to G-d, I did not see coming what that young supervisor did. For 10 minutes he barraged me with attacks to get me to submit to him. I did not. I was never close to submitting, but boy oh boy was I affected. Not scared. Not nervous. But agitated and battered. [/QUOTE]
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