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My son is in a crisis unit. Voluntarily, I think.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 695016" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes.l I got up to let the dogs out at 5 and saw he had come home by the pee in that hall toilet. He is still here. I tested the door and it was locked. Yes. I know this<em> in theory. </em>At least that is what I tell patients.</p><p>Yes. You see, I altered completely my son's existence, for a time. I adopted him and it seemed as if I had altered his destiny from being abandoned in a crisis nursery to being loved with all the love I had to give. And then he decided to live as his birth-parents had, homeless. So, how much control had I really had? </p><p>I will plug on because if I quit now I am allowing that young man's treatment of me to determine what I do and how I define myself. But you see--there is part of me that wants to quit before he can hurt me more, by defining me as irrevocably bad, which he could do by letting me go. It is like--leaving the man just before he was about to leave you. </p><p></p><p>I am thinking about how I define "defeat." Is it quitting for fear I may lose, and labeling myself with a sandwich board sign in the street as a non-loser, or staying the course until there is a decided outcome, by either myself or them. </p><p> Me too. Except never a nurse, thank goodness.</p><p>Yes and No. (My mother's dying and my response made me weaker, because how I thought off myself changed. I was greatly weakened as I had to come to grips with my real life and mistakes. My sense of myself as weakened came as a result of spending 2 years in bed!! After my mother died. I feel as if <em>I look weaker </em>to some others as I age. I made the mistake of, to this young man, identifying with his mother, more than once.</p><p></p><p>He thinks because he is a Doctor he has life licked and has come out on top. He has verbal agility and mental agility--and he does not understand yet that he is living a dream of his own creation, one that carries within it the seeds for his own destruction. He believes it is about conquering the world outside you. </p><p></p><p>When I think about it, there is no easy child. If I were this young man's mother I would be dreading what would come to be.</p><p>My sister is like this, too. She is at heart an extremely insecure person who has seized upon the illusion of strength by power over other people. </p><p>This sounds exactly true to me.</p><p></p><p>He just came in to my room and I tried out this interpretation, he said no. </p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 695016, member: 18958"] Yes.l I got up to let the dogs out at 5 and saw he had come home by the pee in that hall toilet. He is still here. I tested the door and it was locked. Yes. I know this[I] in theory. [/I]At least that is what I tell patients. Yes. You see, I altered completely my son's existence, for a time. I adopted him and it seemed as if I had altered his destiny from being abandoned in a crisis nursery to being loved with all the love I had to give. And then he decided to live as his birth-parents had, homeless. So, how much control had I really had? I will plug on because if I quit now I am allowing that young man's treatment of me to determine what I do and how I define myself. But you see--there is part of me that wants to quit before he can hurt me more, by defining me as irrevocably bad, which he could do by letting me go. It is like--leaving the man just before he was about to leave you. I am thinking about how I define "defeat." Is it quitting for fear I may lose, and labeling myself with a sandwich board sign in the street as a non-loser, or staying the course until there is a decided outcome, by either myself or them. Me too. Except never a nurse, thank goodness. Yes and No. (My mother's dying and my response made me weaker, because how I thought off myself changed. I was greatly weakened as I had to come to grips with my real life and mistakes. My sense of myself as weakened came as a result of spending 2 years in bed!! After my mother died. I feel as if [I]I look weaker [/I]to some others as I age. I made the mistake of, to this young man, identifying with his mother, more than once. He thinks because he is a Doctor he has life licked and has come out on top. He has verbal agility and mental agility--and he does not understand yet that he is living a dream of his own creation, one that carries within it the seeds for his own destruction. He believes it is about conquering the world outside you. When I think about it, there is no easy child. If I were this young man's mother I would be dreading what would come to be. My sister is like this, too. She is at heart an extremely insecure person who has seized upon the illusion of strength by power over other people. This sounds exactly true to me. He just came in to my room and I tried out this interpretation, he said no. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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