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<blockquote data-quote="PiscesMom" data-source="post: 725537" data-attributes="member: 19889"><p>Interesting. I guess deep down, I kind of wasn't sure of this new diagnosis. Do you have any ideas? No label really seems to fit him. </p><p>I remember when he was 3, we went to Disneyworld and he needed a new shirt, and all there was was his sister's lettuce edge T. Once he noticed that, he just had to have that shirt off. He wouldn't stop trying to tear it off him. There was just no way he could be forced to wear it. It was oppositional, but not to be oppositional in itself. Generally, he was a nice, sensitive, compliant, reasonable child. He was always very introverted, but had friends. He worked hard at what he was interested in. He build a workbench at around 10 years of age - a huge cabinet, drawers, a pegboard in back to hold tools. It had a huge clamp that was fixed to the tabletop part of it. All I did was take him to Home Depot. He designed, then built a piece of furniture with hinges, drawer slides. I didn't find it too remarkable - I was used to him. I remember buying an IKEA piece and sternly telling him to wait until I was back from the grocery store to put it together, except of course he didn't. He was the Honored Camper at his Boy Scout Camp his first year, and as one of the youngest campers. I am sure he enjoyed it and was the hardest working, best helper ever. </p><p>Once he made pumpkin pie using actual cooked pumpkin for filling. I could go on and on. </p><p>He has uneven cognitive abilities. I can't remember offhand, but I know he pretty slow processing feed, and maybe some time of language based processing disorder or something as well. He was in Special Education since first grade for learning disability. </p><p>He had always hung out with older kids. He started smoking marijuana at 12 (I didn't know) and he got extremely fixated on it. (Now he seems to know everything marijuana - the history, the varieties, the laws, all the different growing techniques.) After his head injury at 13, his behaviors began. He was very verbally abusive to me and my younger daughter, but always respectful of his older sister) The psychosis started last August - he was 18 and a half, and then the suicide attempt, and now the death threats against dad, and telling the therapist he wants to die, that he can't because "the system" won't let him. He says his dad caused his mental illness and his dad took away his "greatness." He says he doesn't want to live because his parents are stupid. He is socially awkward now. He has a flat affect. But even in childhood he had a flat voice. I was just used to it. He seemed so deep and thoughtful. </p><p>He always has done wonderfully in treatment centers, I imagine because they help him regulate his emotions, and there is good structure. </p><p>After the accident, he became completely out of control. He threatened violence, lit controlled fires, regularly threatened me with homemade weapons, made punches at me that ended an inch from my face, punched holes in the walls, had molotov cocktails in the basement. I finally had him arrested. It was very scary. I had to make sure my younger daughter was never alone with him; once he had gone into her room, grabbed her arm and twisted it, she said. She is still terrified of him. </p><p>I read letters he wrote to his dad from his first treatment center - they were so angry, so full of hate and blame, horrible insults, also graphic descriptions of how he wanted to harm his case manger there, along with detailed instructions on how to care for his plants. </p><p>He really hasn't been violent since the arrest at my house. And he certainly was never violent towards anyone outside the house. He is shy. </p><p>I almost wish there was an easy diagnosis so I could understand what is going on. </p><p>I didn't mean to write so much. :/</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PiscesMom, post: 725537, member: 19889"] Interesting. I guess deep down, I kind of wasn't sure of this new diagnosis. Do you have any ideas? No label really seems to fit him. I remember when he was 3, we went to Disneyworld and he needed a new shirt, and all there was was his sister's lettuce edge T. Once he noticed that, he just had to have that shirt off. He wouldn't stop trying to tear it off him. There was just no way he could be forced to wear it. It was oppositional, but not to be oppositional in itself. Generally, he was a nice, sensitive, compliant, reasonable child. He was always very introverted, but had friends. He worked hard at what he was interested in. He build a workbench at around 10 years of age - a huge cabinet, drawers, a pegboard in back to hold tools. It had a huge clamp that was fixed to the tabletop part of it. All I did was take him to Home Depot. He designed, then built a piece of furniture with hinges, drawer slides. I didn't find it too remarkable - I was used to him. I remember buying an IKEA piece and sternly telling him to wait until I was back from the grocery store to put it together, except of course he didn't. He was the Honored Camper at his Boy Scout Camp his first year, and as one of the youngest campers. I am sure he enjoyed it and was the hardest working, best helper ever. Once he made pumpkin pie using actual cooked pumpkin for filling. I could go on and on. He has uneven cognitive abilities. I can't remember offhand, but I know he pretty slow processing feed, and maybe some time of language based processing disorder or something as well. He was in Special Education since first grade for learning disability. He had always hung out with older kids. He started smoking marijuana at 12 (I didn't know) and he got extremely fixated on it. (Now he seems to know everything marijuana - the history, the varieties, the laws, all the different growing techniques.) After his head injury at 13, his behaviors began. He was very verbally abusive to me and my younger daughter, but always respectful of his older sister) The psychosis started last August - he was 18 and a half, and then the suicide attempt, and now the death threats against dad, and telling the therapist he wants to die, that he can't because "the system" won't let him. He says his dad caused his mental illness and his dad took away his "greatness." He says he doesn't want to live because his parents are stupid. He is socially awkward now. He has a flat affect. But even in childhood he had a flat voice. I was just used to it. He seemed so deep and thoughtful. He always has done wonderfully in treatment centers, I imagine because they help him regulate his emotions, and there is good structure. After the accident, he became completely out of control. He threatened violence, lit controlled fires, regularly threatened me with homemade weapons, made punches at me that ended an inch from my face, punched holes in the walls, had molotov cocktails in the basement. I finally had him arrested. It was very scary. I had to make sure my younger daughter was never alone with him; once he had gone into her room, grabbed her arm and twisted it, she said. She is still terrified of him. I read letters he wrote to his dad from his first treatment center - they were so angry, so full of hate and blame, horrible insults, also graphic descriptions of how he wanted to harm his case manger there, along with detailed instructions on how to care for his plants. He really hasn't been violent since the arrest at my house. And he certainly was never violent towards anyone outside the house. He is shy. I almost wish there was an easy diagnosis so I could understand what is going on. I didn't mean to write so much. :/ [/QUOTE]
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