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My son relapsed....
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 693058" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi RN,</p><p></p><p>I sympathize. I have been where you are as you know. I really think a key is when you choose to do something for him you have to let go of the outcome. We still help my son out and we hope he is getting back on his feet but we have stopped asking a lot of questions about substance use because we have no control over it...AND we know full well if he is using he will lie about it anyway. So we only do what we feel good about doing regardless of the outcome. I have come to realize I will always love him, probably always want some contact regardless of if he is using or not. My love and care for him are not dependent on his non use of substances. There are things I won't do if I think he is not trying to help himself. But I had to get to a place where I personally wasn't so invested in his sobriety....that's for him to be invested in not me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 693058, member: 15801"] Hi RN, I sympathize. I have been where you are as you know. I really think a key is when you choose to do something for him you have to let go of the outcome. We still help my son out and we hope he is getting back on his feet but we have stopped asking a lot of questions about substance use because we have no control over it...AND we know full well if he is using he will lie about it anyway. So we only do what we feel good about doing regardless of the outcome. I have come to realize I will always love him, probably always want some contact regardless of if he is using or not. My love and care for him are not dependent on his non use of substances. There are things I won't do if I think he is not trying to help himself. But I had to get to a place where I personally wasn't so invested in his sobriety....that's for him to be invested in not me. [/QUOTE]
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