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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 693275" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>RN, good morning, we must have been posting about the same time.You have to do what you have to do to be able to look in the mirror. This control you have is <em>fleeting. </em>It is based on his fear of living on the streets, and your paying for his rehab. The hard reality in this is that <em>we have no control</em> over the choices of our adult children. His rock bottom is homelessness or a shelter, not rehab. Rehab seems to be a middle ground.</p><p> This is why I say it is his middle ground, is he there because he wants to be there, he wants to be sober, or because his worst nightmare is going to a shelter?</p><p>This is a bargaining chip for you, and<em> I hope it works</em>.</p><p></p><p> I think this is an eye opener and a something to be <em>mindful of</em>. You have got this horse to water, but is he really drinking it? Is he using rehab as just a place to stay, to keep from being homeless? Guard your heart and your sanity as you go through this dear. Keep going to therapy so you get help building yourself up in case this gets drawn out.</p><p> Here is a good clue for all of us. A display of humility and remorse. I haven't seen that at all with my two.</p><p>Just lies, excuses and more of the same story.</p><p>Ugh.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 693275, member: 19522"] RN, good morning, we must have been posting about the same time.You have to do what you have to do to be able to look in the mirror. This control you have is [I]fleeting. [/I]It is based on his fear of living on the streets, and your paying for his rehab. The hard reality in this is that [I]we have no control[/I] over the choices of our adult children. His rock bottom is homelessness or a shelter, not rehab. Rehab seems to be a middle ground. This is why I say it is his middle ground, is he there because he wants to be there, he wants to be sober, or because his worst nightmare is going to a shelter? This is a bargaining chip for you, and[I] I hope it works[/I]. I think this is an eye opener and a something to be [I]mindful of[/I]. You have got this horse to water, but is he really drinking it? Is he using rehab as just a place to stay, to keep from being homeless? Guard your heart and your sanity as you go through this dear. Keep going to therapy so you get help building yourself up in case this gets drawn out. Here is a good clue for all of us. A display of humility and remorse. I haven't seen that at all with my two. Just lies, excuses and more of the same story. Ugh. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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