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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 693278" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>An active addict, or an addict new to recovery, can never be taken for their word. We are a manipulative lot, and we know what people want to hear. Talking the talk is something ANY addict can do. We are a lot like sociopaths in that we know what to say, and how to say it, but there is no real feeling behind the words. Just reciting a very well practiced script. Don't feel bad about not trusting him, either. Because of HIS actions, he has lost your trust. It is hard to know that people do not trust you, but accepting it is a part of the recovery process. Humility comes in here, again. He didn't demolish your trust in him over night, and he certainly wont repair it over night. Trust is earned, and should be harder to earn back every time it is betrayed. Since you are neither dumb, or insane, you shouldn't trust him.</p><p></p><p>His actions immediately following this relapse will be very telling. Is there real emotion behind his words? Do you think he is truly feeling the weight of his problems? Have all of his responses since this relapse been upbeat, and generally positive? They really shouldn't be. Set backs are painful. I was always very depressed, and beaten down after relapsing. It was hard to get back up. The way he tells you things will be way more telling than his actual words. I suggest you carefully examine his statements, and answers to questions. If it feels superficial, it most likely is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 693278, member: 20267"] An active addict, or an addict new to recovery, can never be taken for their word. We are a manipulative lot, and we know what people want to hear. Talking the talk is something ANY addict can do. We are a lot like sociopaths in that we know what to say, and how to say it, but there is no real feeling behind the words. Just reciting a very well practiced script. Don't feel bad about not trusting him, either. Because of HIS actions, he has lost your trust. It is hard to know that people do not trust you, but accepting it is a part of the recovery process. Humility comes in here, again. He didn't demolish your trust in him over night, and he certainly wont repair it over night. Trust is earned, and should be harder to earn back every time it is betrayed. Since you are neither dumb, or insane, you shouldn't trust him. His actions immediately following this relapse will be very telling. Is there real emotion behind his words? Do you think he is truly feeling the weight of his problems? Have all of his responses since this relapse been upbeat, and generally positive? They really shouldn't be. Set backs are painful. I was always very depressed, and beaten down after relapsing. It was hard to get back up. The way he tells you things will be way more telling than his actual words. I suggest you carefully examine his statements, and answers to questions. If it feels superficial, it most likely is. [/QUOTE]
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