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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 693291" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Darkwing: He seemed upbeat after a night's sleep first day in detox. Said he felt a lot better physically (had a sore stomach and chest from the violent throwing up after being given whatever at hospital). He said what I wanted to hear also; that everything happens for a reason and that he now sees he has a serious problem and believes he can benefit from NA. </p><p></p><p>Since that call not as upbeat. Yesterday he arrived at PHP (after 1 week in detox) and stated he felt like he was in prison. No cell phone or lap top for 2 weeks although he can use house phone after 3 days. He also stated that he doesn't want to live in these "places" forever. DUH he is there because he put himself there. Stop putting that on me! I keep on telling him that HE showed us HE needs more support. (The house he is in now is very nice. I did see it when we visited in April. They keep them very busy 24/7).</p><p></p><p>His house manager called to confirm that we own the phone, the laptop and the car. Yes. Legally they cannot keep anything from him if it is HIS but he would not be able to stay there. However they have my permission to keep everything away until he EARNS it back.</p><p></p><p>I told him that HE cannot do this on his own. He tried while in sober living. It isn't enough. It's okay, no one expects him to do it on his own.</p><p></p><p>I have not talked to him today so I don't know where his head is. I hope he doesn't call for a few days until he gets it together. I am still angry but keep thinking about what you said about not treating him like he ruined Christmas. Although he did ruin my birthday, I did not tell him that. It's also a good possibility he will ruin Christmas.</p><p></p><p>His dad is supposed to visit him in August and spend his 21 birthday with him. He doesn't really want to go. Is angry about OD and car. I told him he has to go. Don't you agree? Can't hold our love out on him. I don't know if that would be an appropriate punishment if he doesn't go. His dad would not be doing it to punish him but he's just pissed off.</p><p></p><p>Do you agree with me telling him if he leaves this place he would have to go to a shelter and get a job and be on his own? I do not support him emotionally or financially if he does not go through this program and give it 100%. I really feel now that it's a matter of life and death. He has 2 weeks in this house and then back to IOP where he has more freedom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 693291, member: 15032"] Darkwing: He seemed upbeat after a night's sleep first day in detox. Said he felt a lot better physically (had a sore stomach and chest from the violent throwing up after being given whatever at hospital). He said what I wanted to hear also; that everything happens for a reason and that he now sees he has a serious problem and believes he can benefit from NA. Since that call not as upbeat. Yesterday he arrived at PHP (after 1 week in detox) and stated he felt like he was in prison. No cell phone or lap top for 2 weeks although he can use house phone after 3 days. He also stated that he doesn't want to live in these "places" forever. DUH he is there because he put himself there. Stop putting that on me! I keep on telling him that HE showed us HE needs more support. (The house he is in now is very nice. I did see it when we visited in April. They keep them very busy 24/7). His house manager called to confirm that we own the phone, the laptop and the car. Yes. Legally they cannot keep anything from him if it is HIS but he would not be able to stay there. However they have my permission to keep everything away until he EARNS it back. I told him that HE cannot do this on his own. He tried while in sober living. It isn't enough. It's okay, no one expects him to do it on his own. I have not talked to him today so I don't know where his head is. I hope he doesn't call for a few days until he gets it together. I am still angry but keep thinking about what you said about not treating him like he ruined Christmas. Although he did ruin my birthday, I did not tell him that. It's also a good possibility he will ruin Christmas. His dad is supposed to visit him in August and spend his 21 birthday with him. He doesn't really want to go. Is angry about OD and car. I told him he has to go. Don't you agree? Can't hold our love out on him. I don't know if that would be an appropriate punishment if he doesn't go. His dad would not be doing it to punish him but he's just pissed off. Do you agree with me telling him if he leaves this place he would have to go to a shelter and get a job and be on his own? I do not support him emotionally or financially if he does not go through this program and give it 100%. I really feel now that it's a matter of life and death. He has 2 weeks in this house and then back to IOP where he has more freedom. [/QUOTE]
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