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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 693331" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>No addict is any better or worse than your son. In fact, we are all the same. It doesn't matter what happened BEFORE we started to use. What matters is that we all eventually lost control, and can no longer get better on our own. Your son can probably recite the 12 steps from memory, and much of the "Just for Today" booklet. He has been there, and he has listened to all the words, but he has yet to feel their weight. Until he can give himself and his pride up entirely, he will continue going around in circles. It seems so insane and stupid from the outside, doesn't it? To watch us spin our wheels, and get nowhere? But that is just the nature of this beast. Addicts are the type that need to put their hand on the hot stove many times before finally getting it. Or put their fingers in electrical outlets. We function similarly to a child, or a mental patient. That is what this disease does to us. I am not a stupid person, but I know I must have looked beyond ridiculous to anybody on the outside watching me. Addiction doesn't care how high our IQ is, or how wealthy or family is, or anything else. It turns the most intelligent, wise, strong, well brought up person into a bumbling child, and a criminal. </p><p></p><p>He needs to give himself over entirely. Anything less than 100% commitment is a relapse waiting to happen. He can't do this on his own. He has demonstrated that numerous times. His way doesn't work. Continuing to do the same thing over and over, despite negative outcomes, is literal insanity. And insane people should not be in charge of their treatment. He needs to accept the simple fact that he isn't going to enjoy the process, that it is difficult, but necessary. Time to suck it up and just do it. Give himself entirely to those who have actually done it, and know what they are talking about. Your son is not an expert at recovery. He is an expert at failing to recover. Two very different things. He needs to see this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 693331, member: 20267"] No addict is any better or worse than your son. In fact, we are all the same. It doesn't matter what happened BEFORE we started to use. What matters is that we all eventually lost control, and can no longer get better on our own. Your son can probably recite the 12 steps from memory, and much of the "Just for Today" booklet. He has been there, and he has listened to all the words, but he has yet to feel their weight. Until he can give himself and his pride up entirely, he will continue going around in circles. It seems so insane and stupid from the outside, doesn't it? To watch us spin our wheels, and get nowhere? But that is just the nature of this beast. Addicts are the type that need to put their hand on the hot stove many times before finally getting it. Or put their fingers in electrical outlets. We function similarly to a child, or a mental patient. That is what this disease does to us. I am not a stupid person, but I know I must have looked beyond ridiculous to anybody on the outside watching me. Addiction doesn't care how high our IQ is, or how wealthy or family is, or anything else. It turns the most intelligent, wise, strong, well brought up person into a bumbling child, and a criminal. He needs to give himself over entirely. Anything less than 100% commitment is a relapse waiting to happen. He can't do this on his own. He has demonstrated that numerous times. His way doesn't work. Continuing to do the same thing over and over, despite negative outcomes, is literal insanity. And insane people should not be in charge of their treatment. He needs to accept the simple fact that he isn't going to enjoy the process, that it is difficult, but necessary. Time to suck it up and just do it. Give himself entirely to those who have actually done it, and know what they are talking about. Your son is not an expert at recovery. He is an expert at failing to recover. Two very different things. He needs to see this. [/QUOTE]
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