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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 693390" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>This is so true! That is how I knew my daughter was not serious about recovery. She thought the rules were stupid and was always looking for a way to get around them. Opening yourself up to following the steps is called surrender in AA. </p><p></p><p>The reason I am hopeful this time is that my daughter is now truly working the steps. She is no longer fighting what they tell her she needs to do. She says things like she is working on humility and contentment. </p><p></p><p>I've heard addicts that were successful in recovery say that they had finally reached the point where they realized their way was not working and that they were truly willing to give the steps a try. One said she was at the point where if they said jump, she jumped. She has been sober now for 20 years.</p><p></p><p>That is why I have said in the past that I worry about your son's recovery. I haven't seen that surrender in your posts. </p><p></p><p>That said, it may still happen. It took my daughter 10 years and 5 rehabs and countless sober houses before she got to this point. What I did learn in that time is that her recovery is not in my control and I couldn't make it happen. She had to be tired of living the life of active addiction. In fact, one of her favorite sayings now is "I don't have to live like that anymore."</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 693390, member: 1967"] This is so true! That is how I knew my daughter was not serious about recovery. She thought the rules were stupid and was always looking for a way to get around them. Opening yourself up to following the steps is called surrender in AA. The reason I am hopeful this time is that my daughter is now truly working the steps. She is no longer fighting what they tell her she needs to do. She says things like she is working on humility and contentment. I've heard addicts that were successful in recovery say that they had finally reached the point where they realized their way was not working and that they were truly willing to give the steps a try. One said she was at the point where if they said jump, she jumped. She has been sober now for 20 years. That is why I have said in the past that I worry about your son's recovery. I haven't seen that surrender in your posts. That said, it may still happen. It took my daughter 10 years and 5 rehabs and countless sober houses before she got to this point. What I did learn in that time is that her recovery is not in my control and I couldn't make it happen. She had to be tired of living the life of active addiction. In fact, one of her favorite sayings now is "I don't have to live like that anymore." ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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