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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 693968" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Well I went to my therapist yesterday. I felt pretty in control going in. Thought maybe I'll just see her every two weeks....</p><p></p><p>Then I started to cry during the session when she asked me how my week went. I got a lot more out of it this time. She was much more interactive.</p><p></p><p>She reminded me that HE is not doing this on purpose but he has a disease. UGH WTF tears. It's so much easier when I'm angry. HE needs to know that we love and support him. A lot of addicts use because they feel LONELY. More tears. </p><p></p><p>She said I need to accept how he is. I said no. I cannot accept this. She said that I have to accept how he is for NOW. I guess I have no choice but to do that do I?</p><p></p><p>I said that I'm anxious when he calls. Anxious about when my husband goes for son's 21st birthday the end of August. My husband likes his beers. I told him he CANNOT drink in front of son period. Husband did not even want to go after all of this (o.d. and tickets - angry/disappointed) but I told him I thought he needs to go or son make feel we don't love him. I don't think that is appropriate punishment. I don't have any extra vacation time or I'd go too.</p><p></p><p>Anyway I will go back next week. I did have a good weekend with my husband and friends but my concern/pain/love/agony is always running in the background like software. On the outside I look like I'm handling it well. On the inside, not so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 693968, member: 15032"] Well I went to my therapist yesterday. I felt pretty in control going in. Thought maybe I'll just see her every two weeks.... Then I started to cry during the session when she asked me how my week went. I got a lot more out of it this time. She was much more interactive. She reminded me that HE is not doing this on purpose but he has a disease. UGH WTF tears. It's so much easier when I'm angry. HE needs to know that we love and support him. A lot of addicts use because they feel LONELY. More tears. She said I need to accept how he is. I said no. I cannot accept this. She said that I have to accept how he is for NOW. I guess I have no choice but to do that do I? I said that I'm anxious when he calls. Anxious about when my husband goes for son's 21st birthday the end of August. My husband likes his beers. I told him he CANNOT drink in front of son period. Husband did not even want to go after all of this (o.d. and tickets - angry/disappointed) but I told him I thought he needs to go or son make feel we don't love him. I don't think that is appropriate punishment. I don't have any extra vacation time or I'd go too. Anyway I will go back next week. I did have a good weekend with my husband and friends but my concern/pain/love/agony is always running in the background like software. On the outside I look like I'm handling it well. On the inside, not so much. [/QUOTE]
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