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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 694082" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>After zero contact with Difficult Child since Sunday, yesterday I was at a late birthday lunch with my coworker and I got a few FB messages from son. Wondering HOW he was able to FB me since he does not have his phone yet. One said "I want out of here!!!!" and "I am not starting over". Anxiety. Panic for me. Now what? I responded "you have one more week then to IOP and job, that's not starting over". I could see he was not online at that time.</p><p></p><p>When I got back to work I texted his girlfriend and asked her if she had heard from him. She said she was at work but he had gotten to use the computer and said he'd call her later and she is "worried about him". Said he said he could live with her but she thinks he's joking and both agree that's not an option with all the pills her mom has anyway nor would her mother allow it.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday evening she texted me and said she had talked to him and he sounded better than he has since the overdose. She told him no one wants to be there but he needs to be there and work on himself so that he does not end up back in this situation. He said he wishes he had not messed up. She said like any addict he does not want to talk to us because he does not want to hear the TRUTH. She said she will be there to help him when he gets out so he won't feel so alone. She's so optimistic. She has a 27 year old brother who is an addict but doing well now. She seems wise beyond her years. We are on the same page.</p><p></p><p>Trying to find the positives in this. I know that she has a bigger influence on him right now than we do due to his age. We are glad she is there for him and has some experience with addiction. My husband feels that my son tries to push my buttons to get me upset or get me to react. Both which do happen. I know that it is up to him to do what he needs to do but at least that she is supportive is good. It is odd that we are keeping tabs on him now through her but so be it. </p><p></p><p>My therapist asked me what ways I am now coping. I told her by focusing on the positive things in my life and having good friends I can talk to about it. I also mentioned the great advice and support I get on this forum - detaching with love, taking care of yourself, etc. and she agreed that is very good advice. She gave me a worksheet on values that I am to complete before my next appointment on Tuesday. I am glad that I have her to talk to and help me figure this out for myself.</p><p></p><p>For today I am going to be okay!<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite10" alt=":oops:" title="Oops! :oops:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":oops:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 694082, member: 15032"] After zero contact with Difficult Child since Sunday, yesterday I was at a late birthday lunch with my coworker and I got a few FB messages from son. Wondering HOW he was able to FB me since he does not have his phone yet. One said "I want out of here!!!!" and "I am not starting over". Anxiety. Panic for me. Now what? I responded "you have one more week then to IOP and job, that's not starting over". I could see he was not online at that time. When I got back to work I texted his girlfriend and asked her if she had heard from him. She said she was at work but he had gotten to use the computer and said he'd call her later and she is "worried about him". Said he said he could live with her but she thinks he's joking and both agree that's not an option with all the pills her mom has anyway nor would her mother allow it. Yesterday evening she texted me and said she had talked to him and he sounded better than he has since the overdose. She told him no one wants to be there but he needs to be there and work on himself so that he does not end up back in this situation. He said he wishes he had not messed up. She said like any addict he does not want to talk to us because he does not want to hear the TRUTH. She said she will be there to help him when he gets out so he won't feel so alone. She's so optimistic. She has a 27 year old brother who is an addict but doing well now. She seems wise beyond her years. We are on the same page. Trying to find the positives in this. I know that she has a bigger influence on him right now than we do due to his age. We are glad she is there for him and has some experience with addiction. My husband feels that my son tries to push my buttons to get me upset or get me to react. Both which do happen. I know that it is up to him to do what he needs to do but at least that she is supportive is good. It is odd that we are keeping tabs on him now through her but so be it. My therapist asked me what ways I am now coping. I told her by focusing on the positive things in my life and having good friends I can talk to about it. I also mentioned the great advice and support I get on this forum - detaching with love, taking care of yourself, etc. and she agreed that is very good advice. She gave me a worksheet on values that I am to complete before my next appointment on Tuesday. I am glad that I have her to talk to and help me figure this out for myself. For today I am going to be okay!:oops: [/QUOTE]
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