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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694626" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think if it is already a plan leave it in place if your husband can handle it. I do not think I could. </p><p></p><p>What I mean by handle it is this: I would not talk about treatment or drugs or what he is doing or not doing right. (That is what I could not not do. I would be nagging and mad every single minute.)</p><p></p><p>If your husband feels he can separate himself out from the trauma that your son caused the family--I would have it be recreational male bonding type stuff like you did with he and your other kids so many years ago. A time-out from reality. Kind of like men do with each other all of the time. Nobody comments about whether they beat their wives or drink too much. They just go and have fun.</p><p></p><p>If your husband feels that would be difficult for him--to focus just on the fun stuff--than I think he should tell your son exactly that. <em>I cannot do this trip because I cannot not think of what you did to yourself and the danger you were in. I know I cannot control you, I cannot make you protect yourself and your life--I cannot make you see the danger.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Kind of like rebelson was saying. But to me the issue would not be rewarding him or not.<em> Because he is not a child anymore. </em></p><p></p><p>I know that I could not pretend that nothing happened. Because it did. And he is denying it and instead of facing it he is trying to make out that he is better than everybody else and they are beneath him. I find this awfully troubling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694626, member: 18958"] I think if it is already a plan leave it in place if your husband can handle it. I do not think I could. What I mean by handle it is this: I would not talk about treatment or drugs or what he is doing or not doing right. (That is what I could not not do. I would be nagging and mad every single minute.) If your husband feels he can separate himself out from the trauma that your son caused the family--I would have it be recreational male bonding type stuff like you did with he and your other kids so many years ago. A time-out from reality. Kind of like men do with each other all of the time. Nobody comments about whether they beat their wives or drink too much. They just go and have fun. If your husband feels that would be difficult for him--to focus just on the fun stuff--than I think he should tell your son exactly that. [I]I cannot do this trip because I cannot not think of what you did to yourself and the danger you were in. I know I cannot control you, I cannot make you protect yourself and your life--I cannot make you see the danger. [/I] Kind of like rebelson was saying.[I] [/I]But to me[I] [/I]the issue would not be rewarding him or not.[I] Because he is not a child anymore. [/I] I know that I could not pretend that nothing happened. Because it did. And he is denying it and instead of facing it he is trying to make out that he is better than everybody else and they are beneath him. I find this awfully troubling. [/QUOTE]
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