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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 695408" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>No, no, no! Do not give in to that classic manipulation. My daughter did that so many times. I can't go to school, get a job, yada yada yada, unless you give me what I want. And I will starve if you don't.</p><p></p><p>That is total BS. If your son gets hungry enough, he will get a job so he can eat. And he will find one in walking distance. Plus, he is in a sober living house, right? Do you really think that they would let him starve?</p><p></p><p>You have set clear boundaries on what he needs to do to get the car back. Stick to your guns. I can't tell you how much I wish I had done that when my daughter was your son's age. When we finally did stand strong, she finally started taking care of herself.</p><p></p><p>Your son has substance abuse issues but another one of his problems is that he is entitled and thinks that you owe him whatever he wants. You don't. It is time for him to man up and start taking care of himself. Until he accepts that he needs to do that, he will never truly be in recovery because he hasn't surrendered that he isn't in charge anymore. Part of recovery is cleaning up your past mistakes so he needs to pay those tickets . . . not you!</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 695408, member: 1967"] No, no, no! Do not give in to that classic manipulation. My daughter did that so many times. I can't go to school, get a job, yada yada yada, unless you give me what I want. And I will starve if you don't. That is total BS. If your son gets hungry enough, he will get a job so he can eat. And he will find one in walking distance. Plus, he is in a sober living house, right? Do you really think that they would let him starve? You have set clear boundaries on what he needs to do to get the car back. Stick to your guns. I can't tell you how much I wish I had done that when my daughter was your son's age. When we finally did stand strong, she finally started taking care of herself. Your son has substance abuse issues but another one of his problems is that he is entitled and thinks that you owe him whatever he wants. You don't. It is time for him to man up and start taking care of himself. Until he accepts that he needs to do that, he will never truly be in recovery because he hasn't surrendered that he isn't in charge anymore. Part of recovery is cleaning up your past mistakes so he needs to pay those tickets . . . not you! ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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