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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 695535" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Rebelson:</p><p></p><p>In the end if he doesn't want to be sober, it's his life. I can't make him want that. If he wants to throw it all away again and do the Florida Shuffle, so be it. Honestly I have really let that go. I had to. At least he's not doing it around me and in my home.</p><p></p><p>He knows if he screws up his dad will not see him next month. He very much wants to spend a few days with his dad. Is that enough incentive? We'll see.</p><p></p><p>If he screws up after that, he will not see us in November on our visit to our condo. It's all on him. I won't feel one bit guilty either time because it will be his doing. </p><p></p><p>I just spoke to his therapist. She said he is surprising her. This is a complete 180 since the last time I talked to her two weeks ago. He also told her that he knows he can never go to his girlfriend's house due to the pills there and that he cannot drink or do anything because it is a trigger. I asked her if she thought he was BS'ing her and she said that she goes by his actions and not what he says. She is working with him on humility. I am happy to finally get some good news. </p><p></p><p>I have changed and I think that is making him reevaluate his situation.</p><p></p><p>When he gets a job he will be paying for his own food if he does not get food stamps. I think there is a job fair that he has to go to get them.</p><p></p><p>Right now I have no desire to see him. Isn't that terrible? I'm just worn out after almost six years of this. Sometimes I wish he would just go away. When I see pictures of him when he was little (just did some cleaning) I really feel like that person doesn't exist. I have mourned so much that maybe that is what happens.</p><p></p><p>I am hoping for the best but prepared for the worst as they say.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 695535, member: 15032"] Rebelson: In the end if he doesn't want to be sober, it's his life. I can't make him want that. If he wants to throw it all away again and do the Florida Shuffle, so be it. Honestly I have really let that go. I had to. At least he's not doing it around me and in my home. He knows if he screws up his dad will not see him next month. He very much wants to spend a few days with his dad. Is that enough incentive? We'll see. If he screws up after that, he will not see us in November on our visit to our condo. It's all on him. I won't feel one bit guilty either time because it will be his doing. I just spoke to his therapist. She said he is surprising her. This is a complete 180 since the last time I talked to her two weeks ago. He also told her that he knows he can never go to his girlfriend's house due to the pills there and that he cannot drink or do anything because it is a trigger. I asked her if she thought he was BS'ing her and she said that she goes by his actions and not what he says. She is working with him on humility. I am happy to finally get some good news. I have changed and I think that is making him reevaluate his situation. When he gets a job he will be paying for his own food if he does not get food stamps. I think there is a job fair that he has to go to get them. Right now I have no desire to see him. Isn't that terrible? I'm just worn out after almost six years of this. Sometimes I wish he would just go away. When I see pictures of him when he was little (just did some cleaning) I really feel like that person doesn't exist. I have mourned so much that maybe that is what happens. I am hoping for the best but prepared for the worst as they say. [/QUOTE]
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