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My sons personality has changed drastically.
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 747453" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>It sounds to me like he either has a mental health issue, like Borderline (BPD), or he is abusing stronger substances. You need to learn about boundaries and enabling, then set boundaries with your son and stick to them. It is very hard at first, but it is the best for both of you. If he is threatening you and not taking school seriously I hope you are not footing the bill. If you are supporting him then you need to write down your expectations and rules for him to follow to keep getting your financial support. Have him sign the document and if he doesn't follow through you MUST pull all financial support. Let him know you believe he is having mental health issues and a condition of your continued support is for him to meet with a therapist. Be prepared for him to step up his difficult behavior once you set boundaries. Think about what he might do and have a plan in place. My daughter would call my phones over and over, leaving screaming messages. I had to turn off my phones and ignore her until she could talk respectfully to me. Every time she was disrespectful I hung up. If you're concerned your son might really follow through on his violent threats you have to be prepared to call the police and have him arrested. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how difficult and painful it is. Sending you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 747453, member: 11235"] It sounds to me like he either has a mental health issue, like Borderline (BPD), or he is abusing stronger substances. You need to learn about boundaries and enabling, then set boundaries with your son and stick to them. It is very hard at first, but it is the best for both of you. If he is threatening you and not taking school seriously I hope you are not footing the bill. If you are supporting him then you need to write down your expectations and rules for him to follow to keep getting your financial support. Have him sign the document and if he doesn't follow through you MUST pull all financial support. Let him know you believe he is having mental health issues and a condition of your continued support is for him to meet with a therapist. Be prepared for him to step up his difficult behavior once you set boundaries. Think about what he might do and have a plan in place. My daughter would call my phones over and over, leaving screaming messages. I had to turn off my phones and ignore her until she could talk respectfully to me. Every time she was disrespectful I hung up. If you're concerned your son might really follow through on his violent threats you have to be prepared to call the police and have him arrested. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how difficult and painful it is. Sending you peace. [/QUOTE]
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