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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 704995" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry you are going through this. It is horrible to be the parent of a substance abuser and not know what to do. Especially when you are aware that what they are doing is both dangerous and is destroying their dreams. </p><p></p><p>I know it was hard, especially in cold weather, to make him leave. It was hard to see those texts from his friends. Please know that if he had friends to send texts, he had friends to stay with. Learning how to cope with all of this is not easy. It can be easier if you have support. Have you considered going to Narcanon or Alanon? Their family support groups provide in person support that we cannot here. Of COURSE we want you to be here also!!!! I just mean that the in person support might be helpful in addition to us. We will always be here for you, but sometimes you need someone in the real world also. </p><p></p><p>One thing I find interesting about having family actively participate in alanon or narcanon family groups is how much having even one family member actively participate in the group means to the recovery of the addict and the entire family. I say the entire family because the entire family is ill, the entire family learned new and unhealthy ways of coping and living with addiction and needs help, just as if they caught the flu from each other. If school had told you that attending a meeting for one hour a week could raise your son's grade from a 60% to a 90%, would you have done it? Because that is the amount that some studies have claimed that having a parent or family member involved in alanon or narcanon can increase the chances that the family will eventually became healthy. I say eventually because this isn't a magic bullet and it doesn't take place in a grading period. It can take years for your son to WANT to get clean and then do it. You can learn how to make it easier for him to want to get clean, harder for him to keep using. You can learn many of these things in alanon and narcanon, and here. </p><p></p><p>I hope something I said helps, or at least makes you feel a little less alone. So far I have not had a child with a sub abuse issue, but I have a sibling with one, and his ex has one, and many more relatives have them. So I understand many of the problems. I am so sorry you have to understand these problems! </p><p></p><p>Please take any little bits of information that help you, and ignore any information that is not helpful. Even though I typed a lot of info, I won't be upset AT ALL if it isn't helpful and you ignore it. I promise. </p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 704995, member: 1233"] I am so sorry you are going through this. It is horrible to be the parent of a substance abuser and not know what to do. Especially when you are aware that what they are doing is both dangerous and is destroying their dreams. I know it was hard, especially in cold weather, to make him leave. It was hard to see those texts from his friends. Please know that if he had friends to send texts, he had friends to stay with. Learning how to cope with all of this is not easy. It can be easier if you have support. Have you considered going to Narcanon or Alanon? Their family support groups provide in person support that we cannot here. Of COURSE we want you to be here also!!!! I just mean that the in person support might be helpful in addition to us. We will always be here for you, but sometimes you need someone in the real world also. One thing I find interesting about having family actively participate in alanon or narcanon family groups is how much having even one family member actively participate in the group means to the recovery of the addict and the entire family. I say the entire family because the entire family is ill, the entire family learned new and unhealthy ways of coping and living with addiction and needs help, just as if they caught the flu from each other. If school had told you that attending a meeting for one hour a week could raise your son's grade from a 60% to a 90%, would you have done it? Because that is the amount that some studies have claimed that having a parent or family member involved in alanon or narcanon can increase the chances that the family will eventually became healthy. I say eventually because this isn't a magic bullet and it doesn't take place in a grading period. It can take years for your son to WANT to get clean and then do it. You can learn how to make it easier for him to want to get clean, harder for him to keep using. You can learn many of these things in alanon and narcanon, and here. I hope something I said helps, or at least makes you feel a little less alone. So far I have not had a child with a sub abuse issue, but I have a sibling with one, and his ex has one, and many more relatives have them. So I understand many of the problems. I am so sorry you have to understand these problems! Please take any little bits of information that help you, and ignore any information that is not helpful. Even though I typed a lot of info, I won't be upset AT ALL if it isn't helpful and you ignore it. I promise. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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