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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 616437" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>There is no allowance here, either. For me, you contribute to the house because you live here. You want cash? You get a job and earn it like the rest of us...</p><p> </p><p>Welcome. I am so sorry you had to come searching for our part of the world here but you found an AMAZING place to land.</p><p> </p><p>My opinion as the mother of a former drug dealer? I think you really, really need to attend an al-anon meeting. You are way too frightened of letting your daughter hit bottom and that is what needs to happen before any kind of change is going to happen. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Why in the world would she quit selling drugs?? She has a cozy home, all of her needs met, is making great money selling drugs and knows her mother is going oto be her doormat no matter what. My daughter will still mention how hard she has to work for so little at her current legit job versus the money she had selling drugs. (She would never go back to that life now, though). There is absolutely no incentive for your daughter to stop. And yet I also have to add that kicking her out will not exactly make her stop, either. We gave our daughter the ultimatum of attending rehab or leaving our home at age 17. She chose to leave. She couch surfed and sold drugs for almost three more years. Then she got pregnant and then finally got into legal trouble. I took advantage of that time to get her help. She was locked up for the duration of her pregnancy because she could not be trusted to not use while pregnant. She gave birth while still in custody and spent two glorious days in the hospital falling in love with her baby. She was then transported back to jail while I took her baby home. She was away from him for a week. It was the most devastating, heart breaking thing I have ever had to witness. She was mourning in jail. She made the decision then that she wanted NOTHING to do with drugs ever again. She came back home to raise her son and has been a COMPLETELY different woman ever since. She makes me proud now - SO proud. She does't even smoke cigarettes (not that she had a choice on that one - I will not allow a smoker to live in my home.)</p><p> </p><p>But, my point is, something normally HAS to happen in order for them to WANT change. The only time things are going to change for them, is when they WANT it.</p><p> </p><p>(((HUGS)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 616437, member: 15796"] There is no allowance here, either. For me, you contribute to the house because you live here. You want cash? You get a job and earn it like the rest of us... Welcome. I am so sorry you had to come searching for our part of the world here but you found an AMAZING place to land. My opinion as the mother of a former drug dealer? I think you really, really need to attend an al-anon meeting. You are way too frightened of letting your daughter hit bottom and that is what needs to happen before any kind of change is going to happen. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Why in the world would she quit selling drugs?? She has a cozy home, all of her needs met, is making great money selling drugs and knows her mother is going oto be her doormat no matter what. My daughter will still mention how hard she has to work for so little at her current legit job versus the money she had selling drugs. (She would never go back to that life now, though). There is absolutely no incentive for your daughter to stop. And yet I also have to add that kicking her out will not exactly make her stop, either. We gave our daughter the ultimatum of attending rehab or leaving our home at age 17. She chose to leave. She couch surfed and sold drugs for almost three more years. Then she got pregnant and then finally got into legal trouble. I took advantage of that time to get her help. She was locked up for the duration of her pregnancy because she could not be trusted to not use while pregnant. She gave birth while still in custody and spent two glorious days in the hospital falling in love with her baby. She was then transported back to jail while I took her baby home. She was away from him for a week. It was the most devastating, heart breaking thing I have ever had to witness. She was mourning in jail. She made the decision then that she wanted NOTHING to do with drugs ever again. She came back home to raise her son and has been a COMPLETELY different woman ever since. She makes me proud now - SO proud. She does't even smoke cigarettes (not that she had a choice on that one - I will not allow a smoker to live in my home.) But, my point is, something normally HAS to happen in order for them to WANT change. The only time things are going to change for them, is when they WANT it. (((HUGS))) [/QUOTE]
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