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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 616490" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Hello and welcome to the board. I am the Kathy that TL referenced in her post. My daughter started her long decline into substance abuse when she was about your daughter's age.</p><p></p><p>I let fear keep me from facing the hard truths for a long time. Instead of helping my daughter, I just put off the inevitable. We would kick her out and then relent and let her come back home. Each time we thought things were better only to find out she was still drinking and using.</p><p></p><p>She progressed from pills and pot and alcohol to heroin last year. My difficult child OD'd on heroin on our living room couch and my husband found her in the nick of time. He and the lady that was there to clean our house took turns doing chest compressions which kept difficult child alive until the EMT's could get there and administer Narcan which brought her back around.</p><p></p><p>Ironically, almost losing her finally gave us the strength to do what finally seemed to work. Here DBT therapist told us that she needed long term residential treatment in a dual diagnosis center. We called them and they gave us three names of Interventionists in our area. We used one to help us finally get our difficult child out of our house (it took a temporary protection order with officers coming to our house telling her that she had to leave) and off to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child stayed in Florida after completing the 3 month residential treatment program and the follow up intensive outpatient treatment. She has a full time job now and is financially independent of us for the most part. She told me at Christmas that she had just celebrated her one year sobriety date.</p><p></p><p>One important component to her recovery was telling her that she could not ever come home to live again. Her treatment team made it clear to her that going back home to live was not their recommendation which made it easier for us to say no.</p><p></p><p>Of course, my difficult child is ten years older than yours. However, I wish we had taken this stand years ago instead of enabling her drug and alcohol use. If I were you, I would tell your difficult child that you will only support her if she is in rehab or a sober living facility and that you will not let her live in your home while selling and/or using drugs.</p><p></p><p>One more thing, I tried Al-Anon a couple of times and really did not like the meetings. However, I did start going to a therapist to help me set boundaries with my difficult child and stop enabling her. It has been a tremendous source of support and I don't know how would have survived the past year without her.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, too. We have walked in your shoes and really understand what you are going through. We are here to listen and offer support and advice.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 616490, member: 1967"] Hello and welcome to the board. I am the Kathy that TL referenced in her post. My daughter started her long decline into substance abuse when she was about your daughter's age. I let fear keep me from facing the hard truths for a long time. Instead of helping my daughter, I just put off the inevitable. We would kick her out and then relent and let her come back home. Each time we thought things were better only to find out she was still drinking and using. She progressed from pills and pot and alcohol to heroin last year. My difficult child OD'd on heroin on our living room couch and my husband found her in the nick of time. He and the lady that was there to clean our house took turns doing chest compressions which kept difficult child alive until the EMT's could get there and administer Narcan which brought her back around. Ironically, almost losing her finally gave us the strength to do what finally seemed to work. Here DBT therapist told us that she needed long term residential treatment in a dual diagnosis center. We called them and they gave us three names of Interventionists in our area. We used one to help us finally get our difficult child out of our house (it took a temporary protection order with officers coming to our house telling her that she had to leave) and off to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Our difficult child stayed in Florida after completing the 3 month residential treatment program and the follow up intensive outpatient treatment. She has a full time job now and is financially independent of us for the most part. She told me at Christmas that she had just celebrated her one year sobriety date. One important component to her recovery was telling her that she could not ever come home to live again. Her treatment team made it clear to her that going back home to live was not their recommendation which made it easier for us to say no. Of course, my difficult child is ten years older than yours. However, I wish we had taken this stand years ago instead of enabling her drug and alcohol use. If I were you, I would tell your difficult child that you will only support her if she is in rehab or a sober living facility and that you will not let her live in your home while selling and/or using drugs. One more thing, I tried Al-Anon a couple of times and really did not like the meetings. However, I did start going to a therapist to help me set boundaries with my difficult child and stop enabling her. It has been a tremendous source of support and I don't know how would have survived the past year without her. Keep posting, too. We have walked in your shoes and really understand what you are going through. We are here to listen and offer support and advice. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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