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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 617282" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>We get to where we are today one day at a time in dealing with our drug-addicted adult children. Listening to the multiple people on this thread saying the same thing because they have been right where you are and loved their kids as much as you love your precious daughter will help you avoid years of insanity and maybe will even save your daughter life. Addiction is so cunning and baffling. We are asked to do as parents the opposite of what comes naturally to help save our kids lives. But we---like them---resist for a long long time because we think we are different and our situations are different. They are not. My son is a 24 year old drug addict and drug dealer. We have all finally quit enabling him (we hope. It is a daily effort and sometimes we relapse). Today he is in jail. He went to court this past Thursday. Again. Probation violation. This time none of us went. For the first time we did not go. We don't know the outcome. We are learning to live with this dreadful not knowing in order to stay out of the way and let him deal with his own life. Believe me we have been around the world with him and have looked into the face of he// over the past four+ years. He has been hard all his life but the real bad stuff became visible To us just four years ago. We have tried it all. Everything. Nothing worked and he just keeps getting worse. Alanon has saved my sanity. Today most of the time I have a great life regardless. I have let him go but I have to work hard to keep him let go. I get confused sometimes. One tool that really helps me is letting all unknown calls go to voice mail and also writing down what I Want to say and sticking to that NO MATTER WHAT. He is always 10 steps ahead of me. He is just thinking of how to get what he wants and I am feeling how much I love him and how scared I am for him when we are talking. I am no match for him. Please work at learning how to focus on yourself instead of her anyway you can. Alanon is a tremendous help in learning how to detach with love. You have to go, read the literature, get a Sponsor and work the steps in order to make progress because this is so very hard. The alternative is a completely insane life and I believe nails in my sons coffin nailed in by me. I have come to that belief over time and through lots of hard work, listening to others and my own experience. God is good. He loves out kids more than we do. If we can get out of the way He can work. I am praying for you today and for us all.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 617282, member: 17542"] We get to where we are today one day at a time in dealing with our drug-addicted adult children. Listening to the multiple people on this thread saying the same thing because they have been right where you are and loved their kids as much as you love your precious daughter will help you avoid years of insanity and maybe will even save your daughter life. Addiction is so cunning and baffling. We are asked to do as parents the opposite of what comes naturally to help save our kids lives. But we---like them---resist for a long long time because we think we are different and our situations are different. They are not. My son is a 24 year old drug addict and drug dealer. We have all finally quit enabling him (we hope. It is a daily effort and sometimes we relapse). Today he is in jail. He went to court this past Thursday. Again. Probation violation. This time none of us went. For the first time we did not go. We don't know the outcome. We are learning to live with this dreadful not knowing in order to stay out of the way and let him deal with his own life. Believe me we have been around the world with him and have looked into the face of he// over the past four+ years. He has been hard all his life but the real bad stuff became visible To us just four years ago. We have tried it all. Everything. Nothing worked and he just keeps getting worse. Alanon has saved my sanity. Today most of the time I have a great life regardless. I have let him go but I have to work hard to keep him let go. I get confused sometimes. One tool that really helps me is letting all unknown calls go to voice mail and also writing down what I Want to say and sticking to that NO MATTER WHAT. He is always 10 steps ahead of me. He is just thinking of how to get what he wants and I am feeling how much I love him and how scared I am for him when we are talking. I am no match for him. Please work at learning how to focus on yourself instead of her anyway you can. Alanon is a tremendous help in learning how to detach with love. You have to go, read the literature, get a Sponsor and work the steps in order to make progress because this is so very hard. The alternative is a completely insane life and I believe nails in my sons coffin nailed in by me. I have come to that belief over time and through lots of hard work, listening to others and my own experience. God is good. He loves out kids more than we do. If we can get out of the way He can work. I am praying for you today and for us all. Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders [/QUOTE]
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