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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 547765" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>This is going to be a major nightmare. I don't see any way around it at this point. Mom will not admit she's paranoid schizo. I got her on medications once because I used totally different reasons to get her to a psychiatrist and I made her read me her medications (knowing they'd be new ones unfamiliar to her and not in her outdated drug book) were, so I know he was treating her for it. She did very well until she decided she didn't need them and flushed them 2 months later. I've not been able to get her to go back. That was about 6 yrs ago. *sigh* She has just enough presence of mind that should you even remotely hint at that diagnosis or any type of mental illness she's going to go ballistic in 0.5 seconds. The chance of us getting her to voluntarily getting her to go is zero. (I got lucky once, it won't happen again) But as long as the dementia and schizo are playing off each other, she's a danger to self and others. So anyone who has her living with her is in for one hellova wild ride. I knew that when I left there today, before bro called me when I got home. </p><p></p><p>Sis from texas is coming up around sept 9th. She's not sure of the exact date yet cuz her husband has to give 30 days notice for a vacation. I suspected that she might be coming up with the intent on taking Mom home with her. Bro confirmed that he was thinking the same thing. He's worried if that is the case sis is biting off more than she can chew. Mom hates her husband with a passion and it's certain to keep the paranoia in high gear. Sis, well, sis can't handle that sort of thing. She has no medical background. She has no mental health background. Two of her kids are major difficult children and she chose her terminate treatment because she didn't want the neighbors to talk sort of deal. So the odds of mom getting any treatment with her, especially with her being in denial about mom's mental health is very low at best. </p><p></p><p>Nichole told mom we'd be back in sept. Sort of surprised me because she didn't discuss it with me first and two because it might or might not be possible. And Nichole knows how I am concerning promises. It just sort of came pouring out of Nichole's mouth which is unlike Nichole. When Nichole was small the two did NOT get along to put it mildly. </p><p></p><p>I can still take mom here. I have the medical knowledge and experience. I have the psychiatric experience both with difficult children and working a psychiatric unit with Alzheimer's and schizo patients. Of all her kids, I'm the one she trusts to give her the straight sh*t, good or bad. I know how to talk to her, how to reason with her, how to talk her down and out of a psychotic episode. (at least to the point where she is calm and no longer a danger) I am the only reasonable choice. </p><p></p><p>Good grief. I don't mind bringing her here. I told her I would. I told bro that. But I also told him I'm not sure living with any family is going to be doable if we can't think of a way to get her schizo medicated with or without her knowledge. Sis could not do it. Mom might last 2 wks there tops. Then there would be the issue of getting her to other family (me) because she'd be clear down in texas, I'm in ohio. </p><p></p><p>If not family, I dunno if assisted living would work given her current mental condition. In a new environment filled with strangers could send her right off the deep end. Bro and I agree on that. Nursing home would be the same issue multiplied by a thousand because then she'd view it as we locked her away type deal. Either situation could induce violence in short order. The nursing home would see to it she was properly medicated, whether she liked it or not. I'm not sure about assisted living, I'd have to call and check. </p><p></p><p>I dunno if what all mom is telling me about bro and stormy is true or not. I know bro swears it's her memory issues coupled with lost time ect and the paranoia. I have seen enough in Stormy to know she's doing all she can to exacerbate the issues for her own gain. I know bro would not do that, though. Older bro maybe, but not younger. </p><p></p><p>When I left mom told me she's getting the boys out (both bros are currently staying with her) and putting the house up for sale and leaving. She doesn't yet know if she's coming here or texas. (she's certain younger bro is out to get her put away, older bro refuses to get involved) Older bro is living with her because he's separated yet again and has no where else to go (except the house he owns and he's letting ex live in). Younger bro is staying with her again because the farm house caught on fire and landlord is nearly done with repairs. He'll be back there within the week. Stormy has stayed with a friend because she's not allowed back and mom's house. </p><p></p><p>Sorry this turned out so long. So much for me going to bed early tonight. *sigh* </p><p></p><p>For the past several years there is just something about the month of august that is making me learn to hate this month. Oh.....wait I know........bff died in august, mother in law died in august, husband had his heart attack in august..............all within 2 yrs. Crud. And now Mom. </p><p></p><p>Just sitting here shaking my head. </p><p></p><p>Other than all this crud, it was a nice visit. Lots of laughs. Got to see my 2nd cousin Marilyn who is like 85 and the sweetest human being I've ever known in my whole life, never have I heard her say 1 bad thing about someone, pass one hint of gossip.........which I find pretty amazing as the rest of us are human. She's a nun, but I think she'd be that way regardless. Loved talking to her again and she's doing great considering her age, better than mom or my two aunts for certain. Got to take Nichole to some childhood memory places, even if they were tore down. She got to see her first (and probably last) street made of brick in the 1800's. Nichole did great driving, even though on the way back we wound up in a great adventure right smack in the middle of Cincy going from the very poorest area to the very wealthiest before getting on the right track for home. lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 547765, member: 84"] This is going to be a major nightmare. I don't see any way around it at this point. Mom will not admit she's paranoid schizo. I got her on medications once because I used totally different reasons to get her to a psychiatrist and I made her read me her medications (knowing they'd be new ones unfamiliar to her and not in her outdated drug book) were, so I know he was treating her for it. She did very well until she decided she didn't need them and flushed them 2 months later. I've not been able to get her to go back. That was about 6 yrs ago. *sigh* She has just enough presence of mind that should you even remotely hint at that diagnosis or any type of mental illness she's going to go ballistic in 0.5 seconds. The chance of us getting her to voluntarily getting her to go is zero. (I got lucky once, it won't happen again) But as long as the dementia and schizo are playing off each other, she's a danger to self and others. So anyone who has her living with her is in for one hellova wild ride. I knew that when I left there today, before bro called me when I got home. Sis from texas is coming up around sept 9th. She's not sure of the exact date yet cuz her husband has to give 30 days notice for a vacation. I suspected that she might be coming up with the intent on taking Mom home with her. Bro confirmed that he was thinking the same thing. He's worried if that is the case sis is biting off more than she can chew. Mom hates her husband with a passion and it's certain to keep the paranoia in high gear. Sis, well, sis can't handle that sort of thing. She has no medical background. She has no mental health background. Two of her kids are major difficult children and she chose her terminate treatment because she didn't want the neighbors to talk sort of deal. So the odds of mom getting any treatment with her, especially with her being in denial about mom's mental health is very low at best. Nichole told mom we'd be back in sept. Sort of surprised me because she didn't discuss it with me first and two because it might or might not be possible. And Nichole knows how I am concerning promises. It just sort of came pouring out of Nichole's mouth which is unlike Nichole. When Nichole was small the two did NOT get along to put it mildly. I can still take mom here. I have the medical knowledge and experience. I have the psychiatric experience both with difficult children and working a psychiatric unit with Alzheimer's and schizo patients. Of all her kids, I'm the one she trusts to give her the straight sh*t, good or bad. I know how to talk to her, how to reason with her, how to talk her down and out of a psychotic episode. (at least to the point where she is calm and no longer a danger) I am the only reasonable choice. Good grief. I don't mind bringing her here. I told her I would. I told bro that. But I also told him I'm not sure living with any family is going to be doable if we can't think of a way to get her schizo medicated with or without her knowledge. Sis could not do it. Mom might last 2 wks there tops. Then there would be the issue of getting her to other family (me) because she'd be clear down in texas, I'm in ohio. If not family, I dunno if assisted living would work given her current mental condition. In a new environment filled with strangers could send her right off the deep end. Bro and I agree on that. Nursing home would be the same issue multiplied by a thousand because then she'd view it as we locked her away type deal. Either situation could induce violence in short order. The nursing home would see to it she was properly medicated, whether she liked it or not. I'm not sure about assisted living, I'd have to call and check. I dunno if what all mom is telling me about bro and stormy is true or not. I know bro swears it's her memory issues coupled with lost time ect and the paranoia. I have seen enough in Stormy to know she's doing all she can to exacerbate the issues for her own gain. I know bro would not do that, though. Older bro maybe, but not younger. When I left mom told me she's getting the boys out (both bros are currently staying with her) and putting the house up for sale and leaving. She doesn't yet know if she's coming here or texas. (she's certain younger bro is out to get her put away, older bro refuses to get involved) Older bro is living with her because he's separated yet again and has no where else to go (except the house he owns and he's letting ex live in). Younger bro is staying with her again because the farm house caught on fire and landlord is nearly done with repairs. He'll be back there within the week. Stormy has stayed with a friend because she's not allowed back and mom's house. Sorry this turned out so long. So much for me going to bed early tonight. *sigh* For the past several years there is just something about the month of august that is making me learn to hate this month. Oh.....wait I know........bff died in august, mother in law died in august, husband had his heart attack in august..............all within 2 yrs. Crud. And now Mom. Just sitting here shaking my head. Other than all this crud, it was a nice visit. Lots of laughs. Got to see my 2nd cousin Marilyn who is like 85 and the sweetest human being I've ever known in my whole life, never have I heard her say 1 bad thing about someone, pass one hint of gossip.........which I find pretty amazing as the rest of us are human. She's a nun, but I think she'd be that way regardless. Loved talking to her again and she's doing great considering her age, better than mom or my two aunts for certain. Got to take Nichole to some childhood memory places, even if they were tore down. She got to see her first (and probably last) street made of brick in the 1800's. Nichole did great driving, even though on the way back we wound up in a great adventure right smack in the middle of Cincy going from the very poorest area to the very wealthiest before getting on the right track for home. lol [/QUOTE]
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