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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 216569" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Welcome to my world. I have a 12 yr old who lives in milieu with other kids who use horrendous language to shock each other and adults. There is no correlation, in my opinion, between her using that language and acting on it. They all do it, even the meekest, most demure looking girls on the honor roll. Part of the blame is on the music video culture and the coarsening of the mass entertainment out there.</p><p> </p><p>However, I think a heart to heart is in order. I think if she left her screen on, in your house, and you're paying the bill, you have the right to know what she's up to. He"", for her own safety, you must. Just a few years ago a 13 yr old girl was murdered during rough sex by a married 26 yr old man whom she met online - she asked her aunt to drop her off at the mall at 7 p.m. like every Friday night and pick her up at 9 p.m., as usual, only she didn't show at 9 p.m. or ever, because she was 40 miles away dead in an embankment. This was a girl who made good grades at a Catholic school but had a secret persona online. She met up with the guy and he killed her.</p><p> </p><p>Sorry to tell you that story, but you must know what is going on with her and her friends. My daughter desperately wants a computer in her room but it isn't going to happen at age 12. The only computer is in my room and I'm the administrator and can get into her account. I routinely check her Facebook to see what is being written. and they still stay two steps ahead.</p><p> </p><p>So talk to her, as calmly and non-judgementally as possible. She probably is like most middle school girls and desperately wants to be accepted. But she ought to know that other parents may not want their kids to hang out with her if she uses that kind of language and runs with a fast crowd. My youngest has learned that lesson the hard way, as have I, and we spend a lot more time together at home or doing stuff so she is not only being influenced by friends.</p><p> </p><p>Try to keep the communication open so that she can go to you with anything, you will be happy you did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 216569, member: 5941"] Welcome to my world. I have a 12 yr old who lives in milieu with other kids who use horrendous language to shock each other and adults. There is no correlation, in my opinion, between her using that language and acting on it. They all do it, even the meekest, most demure looking girls on the honor roll. Part of the blame is on the music video culture and the coarsening of the mass entertainment out there. However, I think a heart to heart is in order. I think if she left her screen on, in your house, and you're paying the bill, you have the right to know what she's up to. He"", for her own safety, you must. Just a few years ago a 13 yr old girl was murdered during rough sex by a married 26 yr old man whom she met online - she asked her aunt to drop her off at the mall at 7 p.m. like every Friday night and pick her up at 9 p.m., as usual, only she didn't show at 9 p.m. or ever, because she was 40 miles away dead in an embankment. This was a girl who made good grades at a Catholic school but had a secret persona online. She met up with the guy and he killed her. Sorry to tell you that story, but you must know what is going on with her and her friends. My daughter desperately wants a computer in her room but it isn't going to happen at age 12. The only computer is in my room and I'm the administrator and can get into her account. I routinely check her Facebook to see what is being written. and they still stay two steps ahead. So talk to her, as calmly and non-judgementally as possible. She probably is like most middle school girls and desperately wants to be accepted. But she ought to know that other parents may not want their kids to hang out with her if she uses that kind of language and runs with a fast crowd. My youngest has learned that lesson the hard way, as have I, and we spend a lot more time together at home or doing stuff so she is not only being influenced by friends. Try to keep the communication open so that she can go to you with anything, you will be happy you did. [/QUOTE]
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