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Nancy, how are you doing today?
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 525005" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Nancy, I could have written your post it resounds so well with me. I have sometimes wished that difficult child#2 had not entered my life. I have come to peace with the fact that I gave up 20 years of my life trying to help him reach his full potential and protecting him. But I do wish I had not... I missed out on alot while tending to his education and needs and look where it led him. I feel like it was an effort in futility.</p><p></p><p>My other children suffered greatly from his thefts and destruction of their belongings and also from the shame of his crimes and incarcerations. They worried about him right along with husband and I. It was very hard on me when I reached the realization that was accomplished as a result of our hard work and sacrifice was to merely give him a nice childhood. Somehow that has to be enough for us. </p><p></p><p>I have stopped worrying about him for the most part because it depletes me so. I cannot stop worring about what he might do to me my family or others however. I try to limit those kinds of thoughts to only a little bit of time. My sanity is important to me and those thoughts could make me crazy if allowed to.</p><p></p><p>Could final closure be better than this other type of sadness we (severe difficult child parents) are forced to live and not give in to? I don't know but I sometimes think so. Is this just a phase we are going through due to being beaten down over and over again? Maybe,... only time will tell.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 525005, member: 2315"] Nancy, I could have written your post it resounds so well with me. I have sometimes wished that difficult child#2 had not entered my life. I have come to peace with the fact that I gave up 20 years of my life trying to help him reach his full potential and protecting him. But I do wish I had not... I missed out on alot while tending to his education and needs and look where it led him. I feel like it was an effort in futility. My other children suffered greatly from his thefts and destruction of their belongings and also from the shame of his crimes and incarcerations. They worried about him right along with husband and I. It was very hard on me when I reached the realization that was accomplished as a result of our hard work and sacrifice was to merely give him a nice childhood. Somehow that has to be enough for us. I have stopped worrying about him for the most part because it depletes me so. I cannot stop worring about what he might do to me my family or others however. I try to limit those kinds of thoughts to only a little bit of time. My sanity is important to me and those thoughts could make me crazy if allowed to. Could final closure be better than this other type of sadness we (severe difficult child parents) are forced to live and not give in to? I don't know but I sometimes think so. Is this just a phase we are going through due to being beaten down over and over again? Maybe,... only time will tell. [/QUOTE]
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