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Narcicistic father. Is he too old for me to take a stand?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 546337" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Witz, I didn't think of the beating. While Dad was pretty violent, throwing and breaking things and pushing us, he didn't beat us. Maybe if he drank, he would have. So I guess it's a blessing that he didn't also drink, although I can't imagine what he could SAY that would be worse than what he already says.</p><p></p><p>Janet, yes, mostly to due our parents, the siblings have had periods of time where we thought one another was doing this/that to each other. A dysfunctional family is dysfunctional all the way around. Sister and I have pledged that this is the last time we'd let him cause trouble between us,b ut, of course, you're right. You never know. Money has a way of stirring up old feelings that causing it's own sort of trouble.</p><p></p><p>I'll check up on Dad twice a week, like I've been doing. We usually only have two minute conversations because he isn't really interested in talking to me about anything. It's largely about the weather. Seriously...lol. I'm not going to lower myself to sending him loving letters that I don't feel. Right now I'm just not in the mood to kiss his feet. </p><p></p><p>Trust me, I often get off the phone, telling him various excuses. I don't make it about the kids though because then he'll say (I kid you not), "You always put your k ids before me!" and it makes him angry. Sad, I know.</p><p></p><p>My grandfather, father's dad, died at 88, just as clearheaded and mean as ever. His kids, including my father, were terrified of him. He was not much taller than five feet tall, but his kids both feared and worshipped him. The apple didn't fall far from the tree here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 546337, member: 1550"] Witz, I didn't think of the beating. While Dad was pretty violent, throwing and breaking things and pushing us, he didn't beat us. Maybe if he drank, he would have. So I guess it's a blessing that he didn't also drink, although I can't imagine what he could SAY that would be worse than what he already says. Janet, yes, mostly to due our parents, the siblings have had periods of time where we thought one another was doing this/that to each other. A dysfunctional family is dysfunctional all the way around. Sister and I have pledged that this is the last time we'd let him cause trouble between us,b ut, of course, you're right. You never know. Money has a way of stirring up old feelings that causing it's own sort of trouble. I'll check up on Dad twice a week, like I've been doing. We usually only have two minute conversations because he isn't really interested in talking to me about anything. It's largely about the weather. Seriously...lol. I'm not going to lower myself to sending him loving letters that I don't feel. Right now I'm just not in the mood to kiss his feet. Trust me, I often get off the phone, telling him various excuses. I don't make it about the kids though because then he'll say (I kid you not), "You always put your k ids before me!" and it makes him angry. Sad, I know. My grandfather, father's dad, died at 88, just as clearheaded and mean as ever. His kids, including my father, were terrified of him. He was not much taller than five feet tall, but his kids both feared and worshipped him. The apple didn't fall far from the tree here. [/QUOTE]
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