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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 314092" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I had another one of my endless "please stop, it's not about you" conversations with L today. I had a revelation. She's been horribly uncooperative in therapy throughout her life, and her diagnosis that I list here is old. </p><p></p><p>Literally, I had texted her a question about a mutual acquaintance. She texted me back at least 40 times to tell me what a horrible person I was to ask a question (about this person who has been somewhat lazy and it wasn't that big of a deal but has gone on for awhile). In the end, I explained to her that she had to stop because I don't have a texting plan and I couldn't afford this. Bear in mind that her boyfriend let loose with a comment that she had gotten angry with him and sent him 143 texts one day and she thought that was normal and usual. He didn't and I don't. </p><p></p><p>After she stopped, and I had some quiet time, it occurred to me how fantastic (and I mean that literally) this was. This was NOT a conversation about her. I told her this a number of times, apologized a number of times, asked her to stop a number of times. This has happened before. Anything and everything that she sees fault in with me is a major transgression against her, even when it has nothing to do with her. So, remembering that way back in the day her dad was diagnosis'd with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I looked it up. </p><p></p><p>A person with narcissistic personality disorder:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Reacts to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Has feelings of self-importance</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Exaggerates achievements and talents</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Requires constant attention and admiration</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Has obsessive self-interest</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Pursues mainly selfish goals.</li> </ul><p>How many of our adult kids do you think this fits? I know it fits one I know very well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 314092, member: 99"] I had another one of my endless "please stop, it's not about you" conversations with L today. I had a revelation. She's been horribly uncooperative in therapy throughout her life, and her diagnosis that I list here is old. Literally, I had texted her a question about a mutual acquaintance. She texted me back at least 40 times to tell me what a horrible person I was to ask a question (about this person who has been somewhat lazy and it wasn't that big of a deal but has gone on for awhile). In the end, I explained to her that she had to stop because I don't have a texting plan and I couldn't afford this. Bear in mind that her boyfriend let loose with a comment that she had gotten angry with him and sent him 143 texts one day and she thought that was normal and usual. He didn't and I don't. After she stopped, and I had some quiet time, it occurred to me how fantastic (and I mean that literally) this was. This was NOT a conversation about her. I told her this a number of times, apologized a number of times, asked her to stop a number of times. This has happened before. Anything and everything that she sees fault in with me is a major transgression against her, even when it has nothing to do with her. So, remembering that way back in the day her dad was diagnosis'd with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I looked it up. A person with narcissistic personality disorder: [LIST] [*]Reacts to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation [*]Takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals [*]Has feelings of self-importance [*]Exaggerates achievements and talents [*]Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love [*]Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment [*]Requires constant attention and admiration [*]Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy [*]Has obsessive self-interest [*]Pursues mainly selfish goals. [/LIST] How many of our adult kids do you think this fits? I know it fits one I know very well. [/QUOTE]
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