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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 314169" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>I think it isn't exactly giving up hope--it is more accepting that this is the way your difficult child is and may always be. You can then accept her on those terms and not spend energy hoping she will be different or expecting different behaviors, etc. If, some day, she does change, then great. But meanwhile you accept her as she is now and go about your life. I've had to do this with my difficult child and I feel much calmer and less frustrated with her. I don't keep expecting her to be better--I hope she may be some day but I have no real expectations of it and I don't feel guilty because I've done everything I can, now it is up to her. For all I know she likes all the drama and chaos, etc. I don't want to live the way she does but I'm not her--she can live any way she likes.</p><p></p><p>Hope you have a better day--that's a heck of a lot of text messages!!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 314169, member: 3450"] I think it isn't exactly giving up hope--it is more accepting that this is the way your difficult child is and may always be. You can then accept her on those terms and not spend energy hoping she will be different or expecting different behaviors, etc. If, some day, she does change, then great. But meanwhile you accept her as she is now and go about your life. I've had to do this with my difficult child and I feel much calmer and less frustrated with her. I don't keep expecting her to be better--I hope she may be some day but I have no real expectations of it and I don't feel guilty because I've done everything I can, now it is up to her. For all I know she likes all the drama and chaos, etc. I don't want to live the way she does but I'm not her--she can live any way she likes. Hope you have a better day--that's a heck of a lot of text messages!! Jane [/QUOTE]
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