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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 314324" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Witz, I don't think it's actually giving up. It's acceptance as this is the person she is and there is probably nothing that is going to change that fact. It lets you move past the point of attempting to change her/hope she can change....and get on with life.</p><p> </p><p>I've went thru this with Travis many times with his various dxes. First was with the vision loss. Years of trying to find the cause with utter frustration, years of attempting to prevent more loss from this unknown cause.....and failing. Then we had a computorized test that measured the function of his optic nerves......which when the results came back explained nearly all of it. With damage to the optic nerves, there is no recovery, no treatment except to use glasses to attempt to give him as much vision as possible....other help aides to that affect.</p><p> </p><p>It was devistating. I felt like someone had ripped a rug out from under me.</p><p> </p><p>Then with the whole Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), CP, and autism thing.........He's come so amazingly far. No doubt. But reached his limits for the most part. Travis will always be autistic. However he is not severely so. He will always have all the disabilities created by the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) that go along with his CP. His brain recovered as much as it could, there's not where else to go.</p><p> </p><p>That was tough. I spent a life time (his) striving for him to acheive not "normal" but all the things he wanted to acheive.......and oh, I think around age 18 or so it hit me like a 2 ton truck that he most likely may remain a much lower level of disability than any of us (him included) wanted/expected.</p><p> </p><p>I grieved terribly, bawled, got mad all over again......the whole spectrum. Then the acceptance came. Travis is Travis. That's it. The good and the bad. It is who he is. </p><p> </p><p>The tough part for me, at least, was turning off that warrior Mom trying to fix it mode I'd been stuck in since he was born. That took some time. And some effort, cuz I'd catch myself doing it and would have to make myself stop, literally.</p><p> </p><p>I dunno. Maybe it would work better if I used my Mom as an example. Although I've never attempted to actually help her to any real degree. Mom is schizophrenic......and not pleasantly so. She will not get treatment. The couple of times I tried.....she made it to maybe 3 appointments, the medications went into the toilet. I can't change who she is. And honestly, she's just my Mom. When she's in an episode.....the diagnosis is foremost in my mind, I don't take anything out of her mouth with a grain of salt.......otherwise, we get along fine these days. We've gotten quite close actually.</p><p> </p><p>I've not delt with NP.......but it may be with acceptance, regardless of her actual diagnosis, may help you just roll with behavior you know is related to that, not take it as anything really but the disorder, and get past it much easier than you did before.</p><p> </p><p>Heck.......I don't know if I'm expressing it right.</p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 314324, member: 84"] Witz, I don't think it's actually giving up. It's acceptance as this is the person she is and there is probably nothing that is going to change that fact. It lets you move past the point of attempting to change her/hope she can change....and get on with life. I've went thru this with Travis many times with his various dxes. First was with the vision loss. Years of trying to find the cause with utter frustration, years of attempting to prevent more loss from this unknown cause.....and failing. Then we had a computorized test that measured the function of his optic nerves......which when the results came back explained nearly all of it. With damage to the optic nerves, there is no recovery, no treatment except to use glasses to attempt to give him as much vision as possible....other help aides to that affect. It was devistating. I felt like someone had ripped a rug out from under me. Then with the whole Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), CP, and autism thing.........He's come so amazingly far. No doubt. But reached his limits for the most part. Travis will always be autistic. However he is not severely so. He will always have all the disabilities created by the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) that go along with his CP. His brain recovered as much as it could, there's not where else to go. That was tough. I spent a life time (his) striving for him to acheive not "normal" but all the things he wanted to acheive.......and oh, I think around age 18 or so it hit me like a 2 ton truck that he most likely may remain a much lower level of disability than any of us (him included) wanted/expected. I grieved terribly, bawled, got mad all over again......the whole spectrum. Then the acceptance came. Travis is Travis. That's it. The good and the bad. It is who he is. The tough part for me, at least, was turning off that warrior Mom trying to fix it mode I'd been stuck in since he was born. That took some time. And some effort, cuz I'd catch myself doing it and would have to make myself stop, literally. I dunno. Maybe it would work better if I used my Mom as an example. Although I've never attempted to actually help her to any real degree. Mom is schizophrenic......and not pleasantly so. She will not get treatment. The couple of times I tried.....she made it to maybe 3 appointments, the medications went into the toilet. I can't change who she is. And honestly, she's just my Mom. When she's in an episode.....the diagnosis is foremost in my mind, I don't take anything out of her mouth with a grain of salt.......otherwise, we get along fine these days. We've gotten quite close actually. I've not delt with NP.......but it may be with acceptance, regardless of her actual diagnosis, may help you just roll with behavior you know is related to that, not take it as anything really but the disorder, and get past it much easier than you did before. Heck.......I don't know if I'm expressing it right. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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