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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 748758" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi. Welcome. Is your son adopted? My daughter is and that has been a big problem for us. One that we did not expect to be a problem. One that we embraced with all our hearts and so much love.</p><p></p><p> Its hard, but I think you have the right idea.We are doing similar with daughter and that sadly includes a grandson but she never let us see him often so we are not as attached to him as to our other grandchildren. Worried about him, very, but there is nothing we can do to help him yet. That may come once we hear about something we see first hand. Meanwhile I was told most of this stuff.</p><p></p><p> They use pot in front of him and blow it at him because its "healthy", wont vaccinate him or take him to a medical doctor and slap each other in front of him. Its sick. I see cps in our futures. I am not up for doing that yet.</p><p></p><p>For now we set a boundary with daughter that we will not talk to her again about anti vaccination nonsense, about doctors killing kids for population control etc. She refused the boundary saying she can talk about anything she wants. Its a free country and she has free speech. This is her passion and I'd better agree with her views or she gets abusive and hangs up. We cant agree to disagree. Nope.</p><p></p><p>It certainly is a free country and we feel, husband and I, that we have the right to hear what we want to hear from kind people. Kay and her husband Lee are neither. So we wont talk unless we cross paths at family functions. A big reunion is coming up and Kay loves attention and will go. Lee wont. He hates everyone but Kay and the baby will be there, ignoring us. We will nod at her and talk to other people. I will try not to blush when she brags that baby Jaden has no vaccines and has only been to a medical doctor once because Big Pharma wants to kill us all. These beliefs are about six months old so nobody heard this before but I still remember the embarrassment when during a way older reunion she told everyone that George Bush knew about 911 and could have prevented it but he wanted it to happen. She still spews that one. We have an intellectual family with many doctors but she will just offend them and move on if they try to refute her. But the family is not one that likes to argue. I wish Kay wouldn't go to the reunion.</p><p></p><p>We no longer give any money or help to Kay and Lee so we are now not welcome in their lives but they aren't exactly good for us either. We are in our 60s with some ailments and the disrespect and chronic refusal to talk about anything except conspiracies scare and upset us both. Our best good comes first. We have other kids and family and friends and don't need this. Kay and Lee can no longer stay in our home either.</p><p></p><p>I go to Al Anon. It really helps me remember that I cant control other people and am not responsible for other adults, even my child. She is 32. We can do little for Jaden either right now. We can report them but believe it or not they may not do anything or much. Jaden is homeschooled and insulated from society so nobody but family has seen much of anything they do and that is very limited. Much of what I know Kay told me. I didn't actually see it. That matters when calling cps. At least here.</p><p></p><p>Its a horrible feeling to love your kids better when they are not with you. Yet some kids are miserable to be around. Whatever news you hear, it is their news, not yours. You don't need to get involved or you can. Nobody can tell you what to do. Do what is best for you. That's how I feel right now. I give them to God.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to be in our situations. I will pray it goes well for all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 748758, member: 23706"] Hi. Welcome. Is your son adopted? My daughter is and that has been a big problem for us. One that we did not expect to be a problem. One that we embraced with all our hearts and so much love. Its hard, but I think you have the right idea.We are doing similar with daughter and that sadly includes a grandson but she never let us see him often so we are not as attached to him as to our other grandchildren. Worried about him, very, but there is nothing we can do to help him yet. That may come once we hear about something we see first hand. Meanwhile I was told most of this stuff. They use pot in front of him and blow it at him because its "healthy", wont vaccinate him or take him to a medical doctor and slap each other in front of him. Its sick. I see cps in our futures. I am not up for doing that yet. For now we set a boundary with daughter that we will not talk to her again about anti vaccination nonsense, about doctors killing kids for population control etc. She refused the boundary saying she can talk about anything she wants. Its a free country and she has free speech. This is her passion and I'd better agree with her views or she gets abusive and hangs up. We cant agree to disagree. Nope. It certainly is a free country and we feel, husband and I, that we have the right to hear what we want to hear from kind people. Kay and her husband Lee are neither. So we wont talk unless we cross paths at family functions. A big reunion is coming up and Kay loves attention and will go. Lee wont. He hates everyone but Kay and the baby will be there, ignoring us. We will nod at her and talk to other people. I will try not to blush when she brags that baby Jaden has no vaccines and has only been to a medical doctor once because Big Pharma wants to kill us all. These beliefs are about six months old so nobody heard this before but I still remember the embarrassment when during a way older reunion she told everyone that George Bush knew about 911 and could have prevented it but he wanted it to happen. She still spews that one. We have an intellectual family with many doctors but she will just offend them and move on if they try to refute her. But the family is not one that likes to argue. I wish Kay wouldn't go to the reunion. We no longer give any money or help to Kay and Lee so we are now not welcome in their lives but they aren't exactly good for us either. We are in our 60s with some ailments and the disrespect and chronic refusal to talk about anything except conspiracies scare and upset us both. Our best good comes first. We have other kids and family and friends and don't need this. Kay and Lee can no longer stay in our home either. I go to Al Anon. It really helps me remember that I cant control other people and am not responsible for other adults, even my child. She is 32. We can do little for Jaden either right now. We can report them but believe it or not they may not do anything or much. Jaden is homeschooled and insulated from society so nobody but family has seen much of anything they do and that is very limited. Much of what I know Kay told me. I didn't actually see it. That matters when calling cps. At least here. Its a horrible feeling to love your kids better when they are not with you. Yet some kids are miserable to be around. Whatever news you hear, it is their news, not yours. You don't need to get involved or you can. Nobody can tell you what to do. Do what is best for you. That's how I feel right now. I give them to God. It is very hard to be in our situations. I will pray it goes well for all. [/QUOTE]
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