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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 748765" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Even if these two are getting married or God I hope not pregnant you have options.</p><p></p><p>They can pay for their own wedding. With their disregard of you, I would save the money and let the bride's family pay for it all or let them marry in court. You probably feel nothing good will come of the marriage. I did too, but we threw a big wedding anyway. I regret it. We were treated like dirt before and after the wedding and their relationship to each other is horrible. You certainly CAN help with the wedding though if you feel you should.</p><p></p><p>A baby is harder. We encouraged adoption and got slapped for that but I knew the baby would be in danger. We helped a lot at first after Jaden was born but tapered off and almost stopped. They never wanted us to see Jaden unless we paid them money. A visit to see our grandson was expensive. Finally they cut us out when we stopped giving them money. I am not able to tell you what to do if this is their news. You have to do what is best for yourself. That means do what feels right knowing you have the right to change your mind. </p><p></p><p>Remember that you are never tied to your first reaction to anything they may throw at you. I found it is better not to react to big and especially scary news until my husband and I talk it out and wait several days so that we are less emotional. </p><p></p><p>Our daughter's problems upset us so much that our medical problems worsened. Now that she is not in our life much, we have started healthy living and our ailments are hopefully going to be under better control.</p><p></p><p>Don't let anyone kill you, even your child. </p><p></p><p>Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 748765, member: 23706"] Even if these two are getting married or God I hope not pregnant you have options. They can pay for their own wedding. With their disregard of you, I would save the money and let the bride's family pay for it all or let them marry in court. You probably feel nothing good will come of the marriage. I did too, but we threw a big wedding anyway. I regret it. We were treated like dirt before and after the wedding and their relationship to each other is horrible. You certainly CAN help with the wedding though if you feel you should. A baby is harder. We encouraged adoption and got slapped for that but I knew the baby would be in danger. We helped a lot at first after Jaden was born but tapered off and almost stopped. They never wanted us to see Jaden unless we paid them money. A visit to see our grandson was expensive. Finally they cut us out when we stopped giving them money. I am not able to tell you what to do if this is their news. You have to do what is best for yourself. That means do what feels right knowing you have the right to change your mind. Remember that you are never tied to your first reaction to anything they may throw at you. I found it is better not to react to big and especially scary news until my husband and I talk it out and wait several days so that we are less emotional. Our daughter's problems upset us so much that our medical problems worsened. Now that she is not in our life much, we have started healthy living and our ailments are hopefully going to be under better control. Don't let anyone kill you, even your child. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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